Hickies aren't just for horny teenagers. A popular post in yesterday's Relationship: Answers section asked CafeMoms for their opinions about hickies on married couples.
While a few commenters called these love marks trashy, several moms, like dovetailthreads, pointed out that hickies happen on accident in adults, and worrying about them shouldn't keep you from having fun.
Here is some quick Hickey 101 from sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man:
What is a hickey? It's just a bruise. In this case, the blood vessels get broken from sucking. Also, the skin around your neck and collarbone is delicate and more easily bruised.
Why do you get them? Your neck and collarbone are sensitive, and most people find it stimulating to get kissed there. But why do we sometimes enjoy the sensation of sucking? As the body becomes aroused, we become less sensitive to pain. What might normally be considered uncomfortable (sucking, nibbling, biting) in a non-sexual situation suddently feels good in a sexual one.
How do you get rid of them? Dermatologists say Vitamin K creams will speed the healing process. But they can be expensive: Jason Natural Cosmetics Vitamin K Creme Plus is $17.99 at Vitaminshoppe. But the best remedy is time--all bruises take about 1 week to fade away and heal.
When was the last time you had a hickey?