
Twenty20
When having sex is the last thing on our mind, it's easy to think our libido is to blame. For anyone who's tried to get in the mood but nothing seems to work, before we get convinced that days of naked bliss are done for, it's worth finding out if there might be another, more common culprit behind that dry spell. Women have a tendency to blame themselves for what's wrong in their relationships. But the truth is, it's not always -- or even often -- our fault. Maybe there's nothing wrong with our libido, and instead, there's something the matter physically -- or even emotionally between us and our partner. That's not something to blame ourselves for, but instead, a reason to be understanding and kind to ourselves. It's also a reason to kindly ask questions and communicate with our partner so we can understand what we all need to be happy.
Once we have an understanding of what's going on with our sex drives and we're feeling back on track both physically and emotionally, that's the time to start experimenting with sex so it can be even more exciting and fulfilling than before. Tips for hotter sex can help us take it to the next level with our partner and really connect. Once those are mastered, take a peek at the 50 Things to Try Tonight to Have the Hottest Sex, which can basically earn us a master's degree in nookie. And after giving birth -- whether we're starting to experiment with a little solo session or are looking to engage in some fun early play with our partner -- we're fans of sex toys to 'get the job done' after we've had a baby. These range from purely clitoral stimulators (great for when the vagina is still closed for repairs, but the clitoris is back to begging for attention) to toys that can help strengthen our PC muscles, which can help us feel more pleasure, and may also help us with all those times we end up accidentally peeing a little bit when we sneeze (ya know what we mean).