20 Small Silver Linings of Going Through a Divorce

He hogged the covers. Her snoring kept us up. She ate crackers in bed. He had feet that felt like sandpaper. She never wanted to turn off the light at a reasonable hour. Well, now that's not a problem anymore. Woo-hoo!

No more Sundays watching football when that doesn't spark joy, like, at all. No more enduring that ultra-painful The Real Housewives marathon that never seems to end. Who's the boss of the remote control now? That's right! I am!

After a divorce, all that time we used to spend on our marriages is all ours now, to do literally whatever we want with. Take a drawing class, get into yoga, keep a cleaner home, take an online class in coding ... free time is the gift that keeps on giving.

There's only so much time in a day, but after a divorce, we get a bit more time to see those friends we didn't have time -- or even go out in search of new ones at a local MeetUp or mom group. 

As hard as it is to end a marriage, it's also a gigantic relief to end a bad one. If we've been feeling like our partner has been gaslighting us, or we've been lied to, our we were cheated on ... getting out of that relationship and no longer wearing that ring is such a relief.

The spouse is gone, and so are the annoying in-laws. Not everyone is cursed with overbearing in-laws, but we definitely know plenty of folks who have had to set serious boundaries with in-laws who were really, really into crossing lines. 

Sure, the thought of sex with someone new might seem daunting, but it's also totally exciting. And in the wake of a divorce, it may not be the first thing we think of, but when we do... sex with someone new? Honestly, yes, please.

Of course, the transition to shared custody can be absolutely heartbreaking and depressing. But look on the bright side: After a divorce, we're not on duty all the time anymore. Part-time parenting has its perks.

All those years picking up shoes that were somehow flung halfway across the room or washing clothing of another completely grown human being who can do his own wash are over. Hmm, maybe this divorce thing isn't so tragic after all.

He farts when he sneezes. She sings when she pees. Either way, it's totally annoying. Either way, after we get divorced, we don't have to endure it anymore. An ex's annoying habits are someone else's problem now ... suckers.

Being single can seem depressing until we realize we no longer have to hear our partner complain about our cooking, our clothing, our weight, our friends ... basically, the whole of us that we liked but drove the spouse absolutely mad. 

Barring whatever financial settlement we have with our ex, our money is now ours, and what we choose to do with it isn't anyone else's business. Plus, no more paying someone else's bills. Ka-ching!

It's impossible to be in a long-term relationship and like all of our spouse's friends. So while we'll want to hang onto our ex's friends that have become our own, after a divorce, we also get to lose the ones we would rather do without.

It's rare that one doesn't put some dreams on hold for the sake of a relationship, but now that the relationship is over, we get to pursue whatever dreams we want. There's no one standing in the way now!

She hated it when the laundry wasn't done on Sundays. He loathed washing the dishes after dinner and just let them pile up. After a divorce, we get to do things on our schedule, when we feel like, not because someone else is nagging. 

It's common -- and normal -- to let it go a bit in the comfort of marriage. And while it's pretty scary when we put ourselves back out in the dating pool, it's also incentive to take care of our bodies better and get back in shape.

For years before a divorce, it's super common to act like everything's OK -- even great. But now that we've split from our ex, the cat's out of the bag and we don't have to pretend like life is paradise. What a relief!

While we may not have ever anticipated starting over at this point in life, it's also rare to get the chance to do just that. So, we can take the new beginning in stride and make it what we want it to be!

Even though we thought our ex was "the one," turns out not to be the case. Although dating can be scary, we now have the opportunity of finding someone for whom we're better suited. How great is that?

Want to eat ice cream at 3 a.m.? Want to get a bright-pink hair color? Welp, that's not even a question anymore. When we're on our own, that means we have no one to answer to but ourselves. And that's a huge win.