Man Plans Dream Proposal But Disappointed Girlfriend Changes Her Mind & Demands He 'Redo' It

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Getting engaged should be the happiest moment of your life, but sometimes the smallest thing can turn into a disaster if you and your partner aren't on the same page. Take it from one confused guy who is now considering breaking up with his girlfriend because they each had a different idea about where their proposal should take place. According to a post on Reddit, the man explained that he popped the question during a surprise trip across the world, but his girlfriend turned him down out of sheer disappointment over the location.

  • The man explained that that it started after he flew his girlfriend to Southeast Asia for a trip off her bucket list in honor of their three-year anniversary.

    They flew to Vietnam and then they ended up traveling to Cambodia, which is where he wanted to pop the question. "After a long day of hiking in the heat through ruins, we retired back to our hotel and when we were alone together I proposed and she said yes," the man wrote. Thinking that he had nailed the proposal, the man "laid in bed thinking what an amazing day I just had and how I would get to spend the rest of my life with the women I loved," while his girlfriend took a shower. 

    But apparently his girlfriend had a change of heart while she was in the bathroom. "When she came out of the shower however she was in tears," he wrote. "She handed me back the ring saying she couldn’t accept it because she didn’t want her memory of my proposal to be in a hotel room."

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  • That's right -- she rejected him because they were in a hotel. And now he doesn't know if he should break up with her over it.

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    "I played it cool and said I understood but truthfully it hurt," he wrote. "It seems to me that I had offered her something of value."

    As far as he could tell, he had given his girlfriend the dream proposal: Romantic vacation? Check. He flew her halfway around the world to do something on her bucket list? Check. "I felt that if she valued me it wouldn’t matter that the proposal wasn’t exactly what she wanted," he wrote. "It was me and our future together she was saying yes to and not my delivery."

    "She wants me to propose again and better and then she’ll say yes, but I’m done," the man admitted. "Am I wrong? Should I do it over? What do you think?" he asked.

  • Many people wrote in that the man should stand his ground.


    He planned a wonderful proposal and if his girlfriend didn't like it then that was her loss, they argued. 

  • One person commented that the man should tell his girlfriend "that's my proposal" and leave it at that.

    Reddit thread

    "Talking to her about how that made/makes you feel is hugely important," another person agreed. "I don't think this has to be a deal breaker, but how she handles things after being honest about how that made you feel." They added that the man should try not to fight with his girlfriend and instead really focus on talking it out. "I understand being very hurt, but if you really love her then I think you may regret ending the relationship before you've had an honest and open talk about what happened, and how you think you can move forward."

    Someone else agreed that the boyfriend did nothing wrong in this situation. "Dude, absolve yourself of any further blame in this situation," the person wrote. "You flew her to Vietnam, hiked together all day, planned out the next day for her. You did this based on desires she had expressed to you, meaning you're listening, you're compassionate and you are willing to work hard to make her dreams your dreams."

  • But some people feel like if this guy really wanted to marry his girlfriend, then he should just give it one more try.


    Was his girlfriend really asking for so much? Some people thought the man should propose again and get the girl of his dreams.

  • Someone wrote that if the man really wants to marry her, it really isn't that hard to redo the proposal. 

    Reddit thread

    And another person agreed. "You're going to end it? That sounds kinda insane. You sure you were ready to marry her if that's all it takes to end it?" the person wrote."Yes, her behavior sucks, but she also explained what was wrong and assured you she'll say yes just please do it again a bit differently."

  • At the end of the day, the man wrote that the rejection has completely changed his mind about their relationship.


    Though he loves his girlfriend, the rejection was just too much for him to bear.

    "That’s a lot of what’s been going through my mind," he wrote later in the thread. "She is smart so I’m leaning more towards her just not being that into me. I may have misjudged her ability to make a long term commitment as well. She’s never had a long term relationship so maybe that’s just not something she can do," he added.

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