60-Year-Olds Are Having Better Sex Than Us & the Reason Why Totally Makes Sense

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One-night stands. Long-term relationships. Casual booty calls. Our sex lives might currently be made up of many components, but according to a recent survey of 5,000 singles, we've yet to even experience the best of it. 


According to Match.com's new Singles in America report, which surveys singles of all ages, ethnicities, and income levels throughout the United States, single women have the best sex of their lives at age 66. For their male counterparts, it's age 64.

Looks like we've got something to look forward to in our golden years.

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By this age, people have finally let go of the sexual expectations, roles, and the idea that their sex appeal is based solely on their physical appearance. Instead of focusing on how they look or what sex "should be," they focus on how they and their partner feel. 

"With my clients in their 20s and 30s, self-consciousness is a huge factor in why they aren’t able to enjoy sex: Younger people are too in their heads about what their bodies look like, how they’re performing and what their partner is thinking," sex therapist Vanessa Marin told Huffington Post. "Eventually, that wears off."

survey from last year found similar results. Women over 36 reported that they not only had more satisfying sex, but that they also felt sexy more often than the two other surveyed groups of women, who were under the age of 23 and between the ages of 24 and 35. 

"As young women, we're taught that we need to put on a show during sex," Maayan Zilberman, founder of the Lake & Stars lingerie brand, told Vogue."/It's similar to how we're taught that we have to present ourselves in a certain way, to have our hair done before we leave the house, or to be a good host at a dinner party."

"But now that I'm older," she continued, "I don't consider sex good only if my partner thinks I'm really good at it. Good sex means that I also had a good time, I'm relaxed, and I've been satisfied."

This newfound confidence and selfishness (in a good way!) also leads to more orgasms.

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"When we're young, sex is often a swift race to penetrative sex without much foreplay or fantasy added in," she said. "When penetrative sex is less of a goal, people can become more creative and sex can actually get a lot better."

Even though our bodies may not be as flexible or taut when we're in our 60s, we tend to get more creative when it comes to sex, Celeste Hirschman, a sex therapist, told Huffington Post. Older folks work around problems they have, which mainly translates to paying more attention to foreplay. 

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"... [A]s you get older, sex has the potential to be a deeper, more loving experience without the franticness that young people experience," Priya, a woman in her late 60s, told the Telegraph. "/There's a real magic in that."

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