13 Women Confess Why They Stayed Married After He Cheated

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My friend L. has been married for over a decade. Her husband is a sweet guy and they seem happy. I was stunned when I heard that they'd separated after she found out he'd cheated. I was even more stunned when she took him back two months later. How could she ever learn to trust or love him again after this kind of betrayal? L. explained that even though she had always sworn she'd never stay if she got cheated on, living that reality was messier than she expected. 


For L., splitting up wasn't simple. They had kids together, a mortgage, years of shared history. She still loved him, even though she wanted to kill him. They did the whole counseling thing and he slept on the couch for months. That was two years ago and I have to admit they seem solid and happy now. 

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Deciding whether to kick him to the curb or take him back is an intensely personal choice. In some ways, it can be easier to understand the stories that end in divorce, which is why we decided to talk to some women who made the choice to stay.

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