21 Women Confess Why They Stayed Married After He Cheated

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My friend L. has been married for over a decade. Her husband is a sweet guy and they seemed happy. So I was stunned when I heard that they'd separated after she found out he'd cheated. I was even more stunned when she took him back two months later. How could she ever learn to trust or love him again after this kind of betrayal? L. explained that even though she had always sworn she'd never stay with a man who cheated on her, living that reality was more complicated than she expected.


For L., splitting up wasn't simple. They had kids together, a mortgage, and many years of shared history. She still loved him -- even though she kind of wanted to kill him. They did the whole counseling thing together, and he slept on the couch for months. That was two years ago and I have to admit they seem solid and happy now. 

Deciding whether to kick a cheater to the curb or to take him back is an intensely personal choice. In some ways, it can be easier to understand the stories that end in divorce, which is why we decided to talk to some women who made the choice to stay. We know it happens, and we wanted to understand why,

We promised to protect these women's privacy, and they promised to tell the real story of why they stayed married after discovering their husbands' infidelity. The reasons might be surprising, but all of them are brutally honest.

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