This Sex Tip From Victorian Times Can Take Your Relationship to the Next Level

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When we think of the late 1800s, we likely think of corsets and powdered wigs -- but the truth is, it was a sexual revolution of sorts. While acts like masturbation were still "taboo," the Victorian era shifted to a mutual-pleasure mentality between married couples. And evidently modern sex therapists like Mike Lousada and Louise Mazanti think a few of their tips stand up to today's sexual culture

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According to the Daily Mail, therapist couple Lousada and Mazanti's recent book Real Sex references "karezza" -- a Victorian practice developed by a feminist doctor named Alice Bunker Stockham.  

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In her 1896 book Karezza: The Ethics of Marriage, Dr. Stockham says the key to satisfying sex is to essentially stop chasing the orgasm. Instead of rushing to the finish line, karezza focuses on intimate touching to awaken often unnoticed sensory pleasure points.

As Lousada and Mazanti explained to Metro UK, "The point of the exercise is to move away from friction-based sex and to create an awareness of more subtle but equally pleasurable sensations. This creates a full-body orgasm that can last as long as we chose for it to, instead of the rather brief type of genital orgasm that we refer to as a 'pelvic sneeze.'"

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Encouraging light touching and eye contact, karezza basically draws out sexual experiences and turns them into intimate ones that can lead to more rewarding sex -- as overstimulation can lead to sexual cravings that cannot be satisfied. 

So the next time your partner pushes to turn cuddling into something more, it may behoove you to pump the breaks and let those hands linger. After all, doesn't a "full body orgasm" beat a sneeze's worth of pleasure?

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