15 Women Confess If They Would Marry Him All Over Again
My husband and I recently celebrated our anniversary. We ordered some romantic burritos and reminisced about our wedding day. I couldn't help but think that if I had to do it all over again, I'd totally still marry him if given the chance. Does everybody feel that way? I wanted to find out what other women would do if given the chance to have a marriage do-over. And some of the answers are truly surprising.
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But the truth is, there were times when I might have made a different choice. I love him, but we've had a few challenging moments along the way. And put to task, there were times I'm not sure I'd have come to my "forever" conclusion so easily.
I'm always curious about how other people feel about married life, so I asked 15 women what they'd do if they had to make the choice to marry their husband again. Click on for some candid reflections on what makes a marriage work and what makes women wish for a do-over.
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Every marriage has its problems, but we applaud these women for being so open about their marriage struggles. Take a look at these marriage confessions.
Maybe Baby
"We have a baby coming so I feel like I have to say 'yes, I would marry him again' but it feels more complicated than that. I'm not totally sure he is my soul mate. Or if I believe in soul mates. I think he was the best of all possible options. But sometimes I miss being single." -- J.G., location withheld by request
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Hell No
"Would I marry him again? No. HELL NO. I'm trying to hatch an escape plan at the moment. I just need more money so I can get my own place and to be able to take the kids. We got married way too young. I was only 19 and I have changed so much since then. He hasn't changed at all. I live with someone who is basically still a teenager. It sucks." -- Name withheld by request
Evolving
"I think marriage is a constantly evolving thing. Like a living creature. So, I wouldn't marry the version of my husband I married 10 years ago. I wouldn't like that guy as much. But I would marry this version. He's more interesting now than he was back then." -- Hillary G., Saint Paul, Minnesota
He Loves Her
"Seeing how great my husband is with our daughter totally makes me want to marry him again. I married him because he was cute and funny and lovely. I love him now because he is all those things plus a great dad." -- Sue T., Maplewood, Minnesota
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Our Version
"I'm bisexual but that wasn't really something I owned at the time. We got married thinking we'd have a pretty traditional marriage. Now we've created our own version, which means that I also have a girlfriend. I would marry him again, for sure. He's been a rock star about figuring out what our lives could look like." -- Kim L., Chicago, Illinois
The Unknown
"I didn't realize how serious my husband's depression was when we got married. I love him, but sometimes it is so hard living with someone with a mental illness. I feel like there is a lot of unknown about what our future together looks like. There are times I don't think I'd do it over again. Put me down as maybe, I guess." -- Name withheld by request
Regrets
"Honestly, I don't think I would. We stayed together after I found he cheated. Officially we're fine and I've forgiven him. But I don't think I'll ever really trust him again. If I had a do-over card, I'd make a different choice. I've got some regrets about staying I think." -- Name withheld by request