Parents Really Are Having Less Sex Than Ever & It's Not Going to Change Anytime Soon

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A recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior confirmed what parents probably already know ... they're having less sex than ever. Although sex seems like it's more easily available now than it use to be, active parenting styles and an increase in online dating may actually be decreasing the amount of sex people have. 

  • The study reported that American adults had sex about nine fewer times per year in the early 2010s than they did in the late 1990s.

    It's unclear what the exact reasoning for the dip is, but there are some theories. 

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  • "The parenting effect," as CNN puts it, suggests your hectic life and involvement with your kids may be slowing down your sex drive.

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    CNN notes that with folks having kids later in life, they may just be too tired for sex. Parents are also driving their children to school and extracurricular activities more often than they use to, which means less free time.

  • CNN also mentions a theory called "The Tinder Effect," which is about the possibility of technology holding us back from having sex.

  • No surprise here, but technology can be a distraction that takes attention away from each other in a committed relationship.

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    The constant distraction of using our phones, especially in bed, can cause partners to disconnect.

    Psychotherapist Deborah Fox told CNN, "If sex has become boring for these couples, it's because they've allowed the drift to dampen their creativity, not because that YouTube video is so much more exciting."

  • And for singles, the theory states that more "cybersex" is leading to less sex in real life.

    Francie L. Stone, a clinical psychologist, told CNN, "In speaking with young women and men, it seems (they use) dating and hookup apps more as a way to affirm themselves."

    Dating apps can often be used as a substitute for "real life" sex. This can cause people to lean more toward masturbation, as opposed to meeting up with a stranger they met online. 

  • Less sex isn't necessarily a bad thing either. The article suggests that it may even be a result of a rise in women empowerment.

    "It makes sense that women in relationships might be losing their sex drive and saying 'no' more, as opposed to my mother's generation that just spread their legs and composed a shopping list in their heads during sex," Margie Nichols, a psychologist, told CNN.

    Either way, it's your body, your relationship, and your choice when it comes to having sex!