'Our Secret Makes Us Closer': 21 Couples Reveal the One Thing They Aren't Telling Anyone

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When it comes to secrets in a marriage, keeping them from a partner is probably a bad idea. But keeping them with a partner is a whole different ballgame -- one that may even bring a couple closer together or take their relationship to a deeper level (even if the secret is something more challenging than joyful). These are the moments to live for in a marriage -- when a couple can work as a team, a super sneaky team. 


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For instance, when I found out I was pregnant with my first child, my husband and I decided not to tell anyone else at first. We'd been trying for months to get pregnant, and it felt special to know that we were the only ones who knew about this little life starting. It made the experience of my pregnancy a little more intimate before sharing with the whole world our wonderful news, and it was nice to just focus on our tiny, growing, family. 

To test this theory, I talked to 21 women who, as long as I promised to keep them anonymous, agreed to spill the beans on the secrets they and their husbands are keeping from the world. It turns out there are some secrets worth keeping and some that just make life and marriage harder. Read on for all the juicy details. 

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