11 Moms Share the Surprising Ways Their Sex Lives Changed After Kids

"I think the biggest change for us is that sex is so LOW on our priority list. We used to have sex four or five times a week and now we maybe have sex once or twice a month. That is a big switch. But these days we'd rather get sleep than have sex. I'm hopeful maybe that gets better when we are out of the infant/baby stage." -- E.W.

"Having kids made my sex life better in one big way: Pushing babies out of my vagina has given me greater access to orgasms through penetration if I'm in the right frame of mind for them!" -- C.O.

"We can get both of us off in five minutes or less. It's fine for now. We're both satisfied, but I miss those drunken nights of messing around and doing a little experimenting. It's hard to get into the mood when in the back of your mind you're thinking about if the kid is going to wake up. Even when we would have him at an overnight at his grandparents', I feel like we want to use that night for peace and quiet and sleep." -- M.E. 

"Sex life? What is this 'sex life' thing you are talking about? I don't remember when the last time we did it was." -- M.S.

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"We never used toys before kids. Now we use them and it helps make the quickies possible. I would say though that our frequency has increased because being off hormonal birth control has allowed my true libido to shine!" -- J.R. 

"We have to be so quiet. And we are both just so tired all the time. It's muuuuch less of an event than it used to be." -- T.W.

"We basically didn't have sex for over a year and it almost made us get divorced. 

We didn't have sex when I was pregnant and then it took us 10 months to do it after the baby was born. My husband just wasn't attracted to me, which did a major number on my self-esteem. We ended up in marriage counseling, which helped us sort out the sex issue and a bunch of other sh-t we hadn't been dealing with.

Now we talk more and are having sex on a regular basis. I don't know if we'd have gotten here without having a kid and being determined to stick together for her sake." -- M.D.

"We have three kids under the age of 7, so we are crazy busy and always tired. So tired.

But we've gotten good at stealing little moments to get frisky. Last week we had a quickie in the kitchen while the kids were watching a TV show. We knew we had 20 minutes, so we just went for it! It was fun. We didn't do things like that before kids." -- I.G. 

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"I've either been pregnant or nursing for 28 of the last 35 months. This has turned my boobs into a no fly zone. Which is a bummer, especially for my husband, who is a total breast guy. I just can't handle anyone else touching them right now." -- H.R. 

"For us, sex after our twins were born is AH-MAZING. I think this is mostly because after years of infertility and having sex on a schedule, the pressure is off. We have the kids, we are done trying, and I'm no longer on fertility meds that made me a crazy bitchy lunatic. 

We are having sex for fun again and it is so good. I'm happy." -- P.M. 

"We have one daughter and sex is actually one of the reasons, sort of, that we are a one-and-done family. 

After she was born, our marriage went through a really rough patch. Partially this was because we weren't having sex and our overall intimacy level was way down. We got through it, but I don't want to risk it again. 

One kid lets us get some of the focus back on our relationship and makes sure we have time for each other and for sex." -- T.Y.