Millennials Just Aren't Interested in Sex -- and Here's Why

millennials not interested in sexWhen it comes to getting it on, apparently milliennials and iGens have better things to do. Okay, not necessarily better. Just OTHER things.


According to new research in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, today's twenty- and thirtysomethings are simply not into sex, and a lot of them aren't sleeping with other people, period. That's not an exaggeration -- researchers found that when those born in the '80s and '90s turned 18, they were likely to have a grand total of zero sexual partners.

And this shift toward "sexual inactivity" -- a depressing phrase right up there with "economy class" and "non-alcoholic beer" -- is more common in women.

So much for the "hookup generation."

If you're a conspiracy theorist, your mind is probably spinning right now. Is there something in the water turning us into asexual beings? Cell phone radiation? Kardashian overload? Have we been irrevocably scarred by the Great Recession?

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CafeMom asked Paul Hokemeyer, PhD, JD, a licensed marriage and family therapist who practices in Los Angeles, New York, and Telluride, Colorado, to share his thoughts.

"This study shows that the social pendulum does indeed swing to extremes," he explains. "It's an overreaction to the sexual tsunami that defined the first wave of Internet dating."

Starting with prehistoric AOL chat rooms (remember those?) and ebbing with the hookup culture of Tinder and Grindr, Hokemeyer says that today's twenty- and thirtysomethings are "reacting against the intimacy-as-commodity culture that came before them."

Although abstaining from a romantic relationship might seem weird if you're Gen X or older, it's not necessarily a bad thing.

"I see this as a positive development," says Hokemeyer. "[Younger generations] are reclaiming their bodies and their sexuality as valuable assets to be protected and nurtured."

And there are some more interesting theories as to why millennials just don't crave carnality. The WaPost excavates some interesting theories:

  • It could be that young women are feeling more empowered to say no.
  • 24-7 access to online porn and airbrushed images have created unrealistic expectations. (Why sleep with anyone who doesn't look like Channing Tatum when you can just stare at pics of him online?)
  • Fear of violence. Date rape's part of the vernacular now.

It does make you wonder what the contemporary version of American Pie will look like, but we're sure Hollywood will figure out something.


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