12 Brutally Honest Rules for Dating a Single Mom

Wendy Robinson | Jan 7, 2016 Love & Sex
^ Back to Top
  • It Works or It Doesn't


    "I think the biggest difference between dating before I had a kid and dating now is that I have no patience for drama or game playing. I used to spend months wondering if someone was right for me and playing all the games. Now I just don't have the time or energy for that. It is either working or not. If it isn't working, I'm quicker to pull the plug now than I was before." -- Patti S., Austin, Texas

  • Baby Daddy


    "Believe it or not, I'm not looking for a father for my kid. I'm looking for a partner for me. If we work, then we can talk about whether you'll be a part of my kid's life. Don't just assume I'm dying for someone to be a father figure. He has a dad and it isn't you." -- Annie E., Des Moines, Iowa

    More from The Stir: 13 'Single Mom' Stereotypes That Sound Like Something Out of 'Mad Men'

  • Baby Body


    "I've had a baby and I have the stretch marks and soft tummy to prove it! Don't date me if you are expecting me to either have a perfect body or to apologize for the body I have. I made a person! I can live with the fact that my boobs aren't perky anymore." -- Vanessa L., Ames, Iowa

  • Don't Be Needy


    iStock.com/ Eva Katalin Kondoros

    "A guy who is going to date a single mom can't be needy. Don't expect to always have me answer every call or text. I'm juggling tons of stuff and trying to date too. I'm doing the best I can." -- Sheila D., Saint Paul, Minnesota

  • Be Really Single


    "Please be all the way divorced or out of your prior relationship before you call me, especially if you also have kids. I don't need drama! Dating with kids involved is hard enough without having fresh divorce issues to deal with." -- Kelli J., Miami, Florida

  • No Time for Flakes


    "I have a two-strike rule for last-minute cancellations. Getting a babysitter is work and expensive! I can't handle flakes at this stage of my life. I already have too many plates spinning." -- Regina E., Casper, Wyoming

  • Kid Friendly


    "This should be obvious, but don't date me if you don't like kids. Ideally, if this goes well, you'd be in my kid's life on some level, so even if you think I'm great, don't ask me out if you aren't okay with the thought of sharing your life with a kid someday." -- Britta B., Minneapolis, Minnesota

single moms dating mom dating love

More Slideshows