Here's the Perfect Amount of Sex, According to Happy Couples

happy couple lying in bedHow many times a week do you think you and your partner should be having sex? (That is, when you're not helping the kids study their times tables, figuring out what to make for dinner, picking up after the dog, or wondering how your baby managed to eat a crayon.) We'll give you a hint: You'll never guess.


A new study published by the Society for Personality and Social Psychology sets the bar so freaking low that even couples who binge-watch Netlifx eps or occasionally work overnight shifts can meet it.

We'll get to the point: It's ONCE a week.

Once! Which is barely more than zero. So excuse us if we're a tiny bit surprised.

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But hey, science knows best. (Until other scientists prove otherwise.)

Apparently, researchers at the University of Toronto collected 40 years of data from 30,000 Americans. They were curious to see how much sex happy couples had.

As we would ALL expect, more sex did equal more happiness. But there was a limit, and that limit was ... yep, once a week. Which, coincidentally, is also the average amount of sex couples have anyway.

Now while you might think that men and women desired different amounts of sex, or that younger couples wanted to do it more than senior citizens, the answer is ... no. The findings -- i.e., "Just once a week, please" -- applied to men AND women regardless of age or length of relationship.

But lest you think sex isn't important to happiness, consider another finding researchers teased out of another survey with 335 couples in LTRs: There was a LARGER difference in happiness between couples who only got busy once a month vs. once a week compared to couples who earned $15,000-$25,000/year vs. those making $50,000-$75,000.

So apparently money can't buy happiness, but a little bit of sex, uh, can?

In a statement, researchers explained that their findings don't mean that people should scramble to have more or less sex to match that once-a-week average -- but that we SHOULD talk to our partners about whether their sexual needs (and ours) are being met.

Who knows? Between the two of you, maybe you'll find another number that suits you just fine.


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