Chrissy Teigen Is Sick of Being Asked When She's Going to Have Kids With John Legend

chrissy teigen john legendOnce again, Chrissy Teigen and Tyra Banks proved they're a whole lot more than two of the most beautiful women on the planet. They're also two brave, honest ladies who recently spoke out on an episode of FABLife about people constantly asking them and their partners when they're going to have kids.

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Chrissy openly admitted:

I will say honestly, John and I are having trouble. We would have kids five, six years ago if it'd happened. But my gosh, it's been a process! We've seen fertility doctors. And then, once you open up about all those things to other people, you start learning that a lot of people in your life are seeing these people, and they have this shame about it. So anytime somebody asks me if I'm going to have kids, I'm like, 'One day, you're going to ask that to the wrong girl who's really struggling, and it's going to be really hurtful to them.' And I hate that. So I hate it. Stop asking me!

She's so right. For lots of women, infertility is a real, emotional struggle over years that causes you to question everything about your womanhood and can create stress in your relationship. I get it after more than a decade of brutal struggle with infertility.

When you ask a woman why she doesn't have a kid yet, she may be totally worried that you think she's a sexless cold fish or, worse, undesirable to her partner because she's facing challenges with her ladyparts. But frankly, no one is having more sex than a woman on a mission to get pregnant. It's pretty much our main focus. Let's not feel too sorry for John Legend or Tyra Banks's photographer boyfriend Erik Asla.

And if you're one of my sisters in the pregnancy struggle, here's something else you need to know. Childless marriages are happier than those with kids.

Now, having been on both sides, my husband of nearly 17 years and I got to have a whole lot of fun for those first, childless 12 years. Try not to focus entirely on the downside of not having babies right away, and more on all of the R-rated movies and romantic vacays you can go on. Because there just might come a day when that sounds like a distant fantasy.

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Of course, no one who innocently asks a couple about babies intends to hurt their hearts. People who don't have trouble with infertility just don't think about it. And that's fair. And we share some of the blame because we aren't talking about it.

True, it makes people a little uncomfortable to honestly admit you and your partner would love to have babies but just aren't having much luck at the moment. But the payoff is the relief other couples get when they hear they're not alone.

Or you could feel free use the response my husband and I developed over years: "We're working on it."

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So, thanks, Chrissy and Tyra, for being brave enough to admit that you and your men are working on it too. And that infertility sucks and is heartbreaking and that you hate being constantly asked to explain yourself. You're two amazing ladies, whether you have babies or not.

Here's the emotional clip.

 

 

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