Won't Hire a 'Hot' Babysitter? What Does That Say About Your Marriage?

woman upset with husbandRecently Chrissy Teigen admitted that when she has kids, she'll NEVER hire a "hot" nanny. The reason? She doesn't want husband John Legend to cheat. That got us thinking: Is this marriage advice we should all follow?


At a recent Fashion Week show, Chrissy got into a convo with a New York Post reporter about hot nannies, of all things. And Chrissy is FIRMLY against them.

"No hot nannies, drivers, or maids," she allegedly said. "It's an ongoing joke in my house ... I trust John, but you never know with these men."

By "these men," we're not sure if she means "hot, famous men," "R&B singers," or ALL men. But let's assume the latter.

So ... did Chrissy just dish out some valuable marriage advice?

Dr. Paul Hokemeyer, JD, PhD, a licensed marriage and family therapist who works out of New York City, Los Angeles, and Telluride, Colorado, isn't convinced.

"While Chrissy's comments make great tabloid fodder, it doesn't capture what lies at the heart of marital infidelities," he tells The Stir. "Infidelity is about power and control. The cheating spouse feels they need a sexual conquest, or in the case of the Ashley Madison scandal, the promise of a sexual conquest, to feed their narcissistic ego and insatiable demands for validation."

Got all that?

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"So infidelity isn't about attractiveness," Hokemeyer says. "... If the marriage has integrity and the partners have healthy egos, then an attractive employee wouldn't present a threat to the relationship."

That said, if there ARE "chinks in the marital armor," adds Hokemeyer, or if one or both partners have low self-esteem that constantly needs to be validated, "then any person regardless of their attractiveness will present a threat."

Makes sense. After all, Arnold Schwarzenegger had a looong affair with his housekeeper, and she wasn't exactly running around in a teeny bikini and stripper heels.

But say you're happily married and adore and trust your husband. You're interviewing for a new babysitter and have two great candidates with exactly the same credentials. One's a flirty, aspiring reality TV star, and the other is, um, not.

Even after reading this, who would YOU choose?


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