10 Things Every Divorced Woman Should Do Before Starting to Date Again

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How long after a divorce should you wait before dating again? The answer is different for everyone, but there are some important things everyone needs to work through first if they want to avoid the dreaded "rebound" relationship -- and yet more pain.


We asked Tina B. Tessina, PhD, (A.K.A. "Dr. Romance") psychotherapist and author of Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences, for her advice on knowing when you're ready to love again -- and how to start dating.

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Dr. Tessina tells us women actually do better in their post-divorce relationships than men do because we actually bother grieving, processing, and contemplating until we feel ready. That said, she recommends spending at least a year before you start dating again, and that's the key word: spend. You're not just waiting around for your pain to fade away on its own. This is a year (or more) in which you do some serious work.

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