12 Reasons Getting Married in Your 30s Rocks

couple in their 30s weddingTying the knot when you're in 20s may be right for some couples, but more people are waiting 'til they're at the cusp of 30 or beyond. More of us are spending more time living together before marriage, and women are more likely to be focused on college and their careers than back in 1970 when 95 percent of women were married by 31


And not only are you in good company if you're a bride who's through with her 20s, but there are a bevy of benefits to being in your 30s when you walk down the aisle.

Here, 12 reasons getting married in your 30s rocks that are hard to deny!

1. The odds are more in your favor. Getting married these days can easily feel like taking a major leap of faith, given divorce stats. But statistically, women who marry in their 30s as opposed to their 20s have a much higher chance of seeing their union last. In fact, that "50 percent of marriages end in divorce" statistic we hear so often is cut in half if you just wait til after you're 25.

2. You'll have more solo time. Whether you're single or attached in your 20s, there's something to be said for having that time to focus on you vs. you and a spouse. "I'm glad I got to work and live on my own for more than a decade before marrying my husband," says Sheri R., who said "I do" two months shy of the big 3-0.

3. You're old enough to know what you want, not so old that you're #overit. By the time you get into your 30s, you may not have it all figured out, but you've certainly dated enough to know what you don't want in a partner and what you do. (A reason #1 makes perfect sense.) "I knew what I was looking for and not looking for," says Kathy P., who married pn the cusp of turning 30. But as Sheri R. admits, "I slid into marriage just shy of being too set in my ways to ever marry!"

4. You'll feel more secure. Marrying in your 30s can mean marrying wiser, with more maturity and financial security, note Pew Center researchers.

5. You're old enough to know better. Speaking of maturity, getting married in your 30s can mean you've had enough time to grow out of infatuations and into healthier relationships. "I didn't marry my high school sweetheart," says Erica M., who married at 30. "Waiting until I was older meant I actually grew up and met the love of my life, instead of the boy I thought it was when I was a kid."

6. You're old enough to run the show. Speaking of financial security, planning and paying for a wedding in your 30s tends to be a whole different ballgame than when you're in your 20s. As Erica M. explains, "At 30, I could afford my own wedding and wasn't beholden to anyone. And strong enough to make those decisions." Amen.

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7. You're more than ready for your own family. If you wait 'til your 20s have come to a close to get married, you've most likely had time to create a healthy separation from your family, say Shannon Fox and Celeste Liversidge, coauthors of Last One Down the Aisle Win. Which of course makes you more capable of establishing a new partnership -- and ultimately, perhaps, family unit -- with your new spouse.

8. You're far less likely to feel resentful. Working and living on your own (see #2) before becoming someone's Mrs. are important, but so too is sowing your wild oats. Or at least traveling. By marrying in your 30s, you won’t end up feeling resentful for the adventures or passions you wish you would’ve pursued during your younger, single years, say Fox and Liversidge. Sheri R. agrees, noting that she's also grateful to have had the chance to travel before tying the knot.

9. You're more comfortable in your skin. Many women swear that it's around 30 when they started to stop caring so much about what other people think or that they made peace with their bodies. And having a healthier body image is linked to a happier marriage and sex life.

10. You've had time to solidify your social circle. From longevity to happiness to reduced stress, having a social network you can depend on is research-proven to bolster wellness. If you spend your 20s shoring up your connections, you can enter marriage in your 30s knowing you've invested in those oh-so-important lifelong friendships.

11. You have more realistic expectations. By the time you're in your 30s, you've likely seen plenty of friends' and family members' marriages succeed or fail. You've also heard about behind-closed-doors arguments your friends have had with their spouses about finances, sex, in-laws, etc. In other words, you're well-aware that marriage can be equal parts challenging and rewarding, which allows you to go into it a bit more pragmatically than you may in your 20s.

12. You're more flexible. As Elizabeth P., who married at 32 explains, "I felt like I had learned not to take myself so seriously and know that my way isn't always the right way. I feel like your 20s are about figuring yourself out and who you want to be. By my 30s, I was much more comfortable with myself, and it helps in my marriage. [For instance,] I'm better at communicating now."

Which of these can you relate to the most? How old were you when you got hitched?


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