10 Reasons Heartbreak Can Be the Best Thing to Ever Happen to You

Heartbreak is one of the absolute worst things you'll ever experience -- or is it? Much like childbirth, it can hurt like hell at the time, and make you swear you never, EVER will go through that again -- but at the same time, you can get something so incredibly worthwhile out of it. Ha! You're thinking. What good can come out of heartbreak? Well, listen to these 10 victims of love who ended up grateful for getting their hearts crushed.


"I divorced my husband of 16 years because he was unfaithful (with other men!) and because his sexual orientation issues were making him increasingly difficult to live with and harming his health. But being in the marriage was actually a lot harder and more heartbreaking than finally leaving. I learned that taking that scary leap (I initiated the divorce) was worth the risk. I learned how to make myself happy, alone. I learned how to care for myself better. And I also opened the door to a healthier, more fulfilling relationship." -- Adriana, divorced with one child

"Grieving the loss of the relationship forced me to find a new relationship with myself, where I came to realize how I needed to be my own best friend first." -- Dana Greco, co-author of Conscious Coupling: Positive Insights for Long-Lasting relationships shared by Two Divorce Mediators

"After my divorce, it gave me the opportunity to really explore dating again. I used my past experiences to find a better person for me. I really took the opportunity to explore a lot of different women. I also made it a point not to commit to any one of them until I was sure I found someone who really made sense for me ... I also used Meetup to discover I loved swing dancing!" -- Don Desroches, co-author of Conscious Coupling: Positive Insights for Long-Lasting relationships shared by Two Divorce Mediators

"Back in college, I dated a guy who just wasn't as into me as I was into him -- I bent over backwards trying to make him happy, but it didn't work, and we eventually parted ways. But this was a good thing in that it taught me that you can't 'make' a guy love you. So after that, I stopped trying so hard, and wasting my time on guys who seemed lukewarm about me. And I eventually met a guy who was as into me as I was into him and the rest is history."  -- Judy, 42, married with one daughter

"When I was in my early 20s, I dated a guy who was incredibly self-centered and controlling but also really good-looking and very funny. When he broke up with me over the phone after dating for more than a year and I told my family, they all clapped spontaneously and simultaneously -- which was a huge indicator of just how big a jerk he was. Of course, I was devastated at the time and for months after. But looking back, I can see that I would've been absolutely miserable with him in the long run. I always came second to his workouts, he was unbelievably shallow, I couldn't have any male friends, etc. It was absolutely for the best and anyone I dated after that -- as soon as they displayed those same traits? See ya!"  -- Elizabeth, married with three sons

"I moved to New York City with the idea that I might end up in a relationship with a guy I met online (who I had actually started dating during pre-move visits). He turned out to be a total player jerk, smashed my heart to smithereens. And while trying to pick up the pieces, my new roommate suggested I read He's Just Not That Into You -- which gave me the wakeup call I needed to focus on the right guys! Eight months later, I met my now-husband. #Boom. Thanks, jerk." -- Maressa, married

"It took leaving my abusive marriage to realize that I'm strong, can't be broken, and I also realized my dreams and calling in life. I travel every chance I get. Realizing I can't be broken is priceless." -- Holly, divorced, one son

"I learned that my worst fears aren't as bad as I thought. I'm grateful that I know now who my true friends are. I am working on loving myself and taking responsibility for my own happiness. There is nothing stopping me from finding a true, epic, passionate lifelong partner. None of these things were possible before my heart was broken." -- Louis, divorced, two children

"My wife leaving me was the best thing that ever happened to me; I just thought it was a tragedy at the time. That happened in 2005, which is, shockingly, a decade ago. Now I'm happily married, have a new career and a 5-year-old son. I was so broken up about my first marriage and really thought I was a failure because of it. I had no idea what was really in store." -- Michael, married, one son

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"After trying to make an on-off relationship work for five years, I finally broke it off and it's the best thing I ever did. I'm so proud of myself for being strong, because I really, really loved that narcissistic commitmentphobe, and I think many women hang in there forever. Now I know what I will NOT put up with, and I never would have known that otherwise. I have also traveled to places I wouldn't have if we'd been together; and I went on an exploration of myself that resulted in my becoming a much more grounded, serene, and happy person than I ever would have been if I was still hanging in there with Mr. Douchenozzle." -- Anonymous

Have you ever been glad you suffered heartbreak?


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