Naked 'Blurred Lines' Model Emily Ratajkowski Makes Cringeworthy New Comments About That Video

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We all know Emily Ratajkowski as one of the models prancing topless in Robin Thicke's "Blurred Lines" video and for the soothing boob pillow she provides Ben Affleck's beleaguered character in the movie Gone Girl. But Ratajkowski wants you to know those sexy appearances were empowering because: Feminism! And stuff.

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SIGH.

In an interview with the Daily Mail, Ratajkowski says, "I think you can be a sexual woman, empowered, and be a feminist." She adds, "I think sexuality should be empowering to women. It's not always misogynistic or exploitative."

I just want to say up front that I agree 100 percent with Ratajkowski on both counts. YES to sexually empowered women being feminist, and yes to sexuality being empowering for women. Er ... that's kind of the same idea repeated twice. But whatever, I'm all for it.

It's just that we need to really think about what "sexual" actually means. To quote Inigo Montoya from The Princess Bride, "You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means."

We tend to confuse "sexy" with "sexual." What's the difference?

Sexy is all about how other people see you and feel about you. It's about how much you turn THEM on.

Sexual is all about how you feel, what turns YOU on, and what you like to do to get off.

The two ideas aren't mutually exclusive, of course. Attracting and holding a man's gaze can be a HUGE turn-on for women. But that's just a tiny part of women's sexuality.

So let's go back to that "Blurred Lines" video (NSFW link). Yes, it's sexy. But it's not very sexual. Do you get any sense whatsoever of what turns Ratajkowski on? Not really. She's mostly walking back and forth with a bouncy step, leaning toward Robin Thicke, pouting at the camera.

She doesn't seem interested in Thicke (and who can blame her), but she also doesn't seem interested in her own body or her fellow models. She's not touching herself, except to cover her breasts sometimes. You don't get the sense that frolicking in the nude is great kinky fun for her. Just a pleasant-enough job she doesn't mind doing.

Ratajkowski says she liked working with the director because he let her have a "voice" in the visual aspect of the video. "I had all kinds of ideas to say so it ended up being a good platform, because on the other side, I think people were like, 'Well let's hear what the girls think.'"

Well, I'm still listening, because after watching the video again, I still don't know what the "Blurred Lines" girls think (except that Thicke is definitely not sexy).

Look, I think it's fabulous that Ratajkowski believes that women's sexuality can be empowering, and I hope she keeps exploring what that means. But I just want to challenge her and every other woman who spouts off about women, sex, empowerment, and feminism.

Aim a little higher.

Your sexuality doesn't begin and end with being men's eye candy. It's bigger, and more fun, and more exciting, and stranger, and more complex than that. It's a vast ocean. It's about YOU, and it's about connection. That is what we should be talking about when we talk about the sexual empowerment of women.

What do you think about the difference between being sexy and being sexual?

 

Image via Ari Perilstein/The Weinstein Company & Netflix's 2015 Golden Globes/Getty Images

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