The 'Wisest' Americans Share Love & Marriage Advice We All Need to Hear

couple holding wedding bandsWhether you got hitched one or 20 years ago, the secret to a lasting, happy marriage may still seem to evade you some days. But if anyone should know what it takes to keep a long-term relationship afloat, it's probably people who have decades of experience, right? That's what Karl Pillemer, a gerontologist and author of the new book, 30 Lessons for Loving: Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage figured when he made it his goal to interview 700 people over the age of 65 who've been married for an average of 43 years. Yow!


Pillemer and his team have spent the past four years talking to these relationship veterans -- some who were widowed, some who are gay, some who've been happily married for years, and others who have been through multiple marriages and divorces -- for the Marriage Advice Project. One of the most jaw-dropping marriages he looked at lasted 76 years between a 101-year-old woman and 98-year-old man. Wild!

Clearly, these people know a bit more than those of who've been married for mere minutes by comparison! Here, 11 pieces of sage advice they shared about what it takes to make a marriage work.

Check out their insights below, then tell us: Which of these do you know to be true? Which comes as a surprise?


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