10 Types of Guys You Should Date After a Breakup (PHOTOS)

Liz Alterman | Dec 16, 2014 Love & Sex

couple on a dateAfter a breakup, everyone wants to give you advice on the next guy you should date. Though you may have sworn off dating for a while, sometimes "getting back out there" can take your mind off your last relationship. 

"Don’t worry if 'he’s the one'; just do your best to have a good time, enjoy your dinner and movie, flirt your ass off, and then wait and see what happens," recommends The Single Mom, author of the blog The Single Mom's Dating Diary.

So, just who seems like a good prospect? We spoke with recently divorced or separated moms and bloggers and found 10 types of guys who are perfect choices when you're slowly wading back into the dating pool. Check out our slideshow and then tell us: Who is another type of guy you'd like to date if you're newly single?


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  • The Capable Contractor


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    "After my husband moved out, I decided to renovate the bathroom," says Debbie, mom of two. "One of the contractors who gave me an estimate was really cute and super-helpful and we ended up going out for a while. It was such a nice change from my ex, who rarely changed a light bulb. This guy would fix things I didn't even notice needed it. It made me feel like he really cared about my and my girls' safety."

  • The Sensitive Poet


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    Especially if your ex struggled to compose a thoughtful note or, heck, even a grocery list, dating an artist can be a welcome change of pace. Being with someone who has a range of emotion and isn't afraid to show it lets you know where you stand. It may even get your creative juices flowing as well. 

  • The Divorced Dad


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    Especially if you're a mom, this guy is going to get what you're going through. If he's been on his own for a while, he'll really appreciate the little things -- like a home-cooked meal or the chance to talk about his kids.

    "I dated a divorced dad for a few months after my breakup, and it was really nice because it showed me that life would go on and being a single parent and dating weren't mutually exclusive," says Cara, mom of two. "He was ready for a long-term relationship and I really wasn't or else I think we'd still be together."

  • The Thrill Seeker


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    After exiting a serious relationship, it can be exciting to date someone who's daring and up for anything -- especially if your ex was the sit-on-the-couch type. 

    Dating expertt Kane from TheWebDating.com explains why women love to date a thrill seeker, "Women like to be around them because they drive fast, go interesting places, and generally have a sense of ‘adventure’ about everything they do. They have the attitude of What adventure is waiting around the next corner -- even if they’re just going out to dinner. They have a colorful way of slightly exaggerating every story and emphasizing the adventurous points."

    But thrill seekers are tough to tame, so this may not lead to your next long-term relationship -- which can be good or bad depending on what you want.

  • The Boy Next Door


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    If you were badly hurt by the ending of your last relationship, it could be time to seek solace in the arms of the Boy Next Door. While you may have passed over this "nice guy" in your wilder, teen years, it could be time to give him another chance. Dating site OKCupid agrees, noting, "More than any other type, Boys Next Door evolve as they get older." Good to know!

  • The Tough Guy


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    Though you might not be ready to jump on the back of his Harley just yet (or maybe that's exactly what you need), the tough guy will show you how to stop letting certain people in your life push you around. He'll stand up for you too if you need him to and that's pretty darn attractive.  

  • The Big Spender


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    You know the saying, "It's just as easy to love a rich man as it is to love a poor one"? Well, why not treat yourself to some fancy fun by dating the big spender? This guy is particularly nice if your ex was the "split the check" type.

  • The Entrepreneur


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    This guy is accustomed to building things from the ground up, so he's no stranger to hard work, which is very attractive. Also, he's probably extremely busy, so if you're looking for a relationship that offers plenty of space to adjust to your new single life, this guy is a great catch. 

  • The Teacher


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    If you feel like you could benefit from a little "schooling" when it comes to re-entering the dating world, finding a teacher who is patient and kind can make it a lot less scary. 

    "My first date after my divorce was with a teacher," says Beth, mom of one. "He was really sweet and funny. He had a gentleness about him that I can only imagine comes from working with kids all day." 

  • The Guy From the Past


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    "After my husband and I separated, I reconnected with a guy I was friendly with in high school through Facebook," says Claire, a mom of three. "It was so nice to go out with him because we didn't have to go through any of that awkward, 'So where did you grow up?' small talk stuff. We have a shared history, which meant we had plenty to catch up on, and that made getting back out there really easy."

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