Jill Duggar Gets 3 Great Marriage Tips From Very Smart 'Counselors'

Jill Duggar

There are few couples who know more about marriage and family than Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar. They come by it honestly. After 30 years of marriage and 19 children, they've learned a thing or two, to put it mildly. And they are not shy about sharing that wisdom with their daughter, Jill, and her new husband Derick.

Last night on the show, taped before Jill and Derick tied the knot, the couple talked about how many kids they wanted. But it was also revealed that in the weeks leading up to their wedding, Jill and Derick were going to premarital counseling. And who they went to might surprise you.

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Who else? Her parents, of course.

For most of us, it's probably hard to imagine a world where we'd want to get marriage (or sex!) advice from our parents, but not all of us have Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar to learn from.

During each week of the sessions, they focused on different aspects of building a family, and this week, the talk was about finances. For Jim Bob and Michelle, this is a huge deal since they are debt-free and managed to amass a sizable fortune just by buying used items, saving carefully, and smart budget planning.

It's a lesson all married couples would do well to learn given how common it is to divorce over money.

And what did they tell the newlyweds-to-be?

Jim Bob: What do you think about debt? Say your engine blew up on your car and you're running low on cash, what would you do?

Derick: Probably have an emergency fund.

Jim Bob: What if that was depleted?

Derick: I wouldn't go into debt.

And there you have it. No debt = happy marriage. 

The rest of their advice:

1.) Always help your lady with her chair (a little joke Jim Bob made).

2.) Don't go into debt.

3.) Save where you can.

It has worked for the Duggars, after all. Jill would do well to follow in her parents' footsteps. And so many of our beliefs about marriage come from our parents anyway.

But while it's good to take the advice of those who have more experience in marriage -- whether it's our parents, friends, or other couples -- we also need to forge our own paths. It's important for Jill and the rest of us to realize that our parents can talk to us about what they've learned, but their way is not the only way. What has worked for Michelle and Jim Bob may not work for Jill and Derick in the end, and that's OK. They are a different couple; theirs is a different marriage.

Jill and Derick are smart to listen to Michelle and Jim Bob and learn from their success, but they should also be careful to understand that there is no one "right" path to a happy marriage. While there are some universal truths about how to have a good relationship with your spouse, everyone does it differently. It's part of the beauty.

Did your parents talk to you about marriage?

 

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