7 Things You Didn’t Know About Women’s Orgasms

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Womenfolk, one of the great sexual legends has just been slain. Have you been laboring tirelessly for that vaginal orgasm? On an endless quest to find your G-spot? You can give it a rest, because according to science you are literally looking for love in all the wrong places. One study claims the G-spot is a myth. And another study claims vaginal orgasm doesn't exist.

But what about that one time ... ? So then how come you've so often ... Where do they get OFF ... ???

I know. Let me explain. Both studies conclude (more or less) that the clitoris is key to female climax. But if you're feeling the magic elsewhere, it's because women's orgasms are complex and can involve other regions of your genital area. Here's why this is such a game-changer for your sex life.

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1. There is no vaginal orgasm. Here's how the authors of that study put it. "The 'vaginal' orgasm that some women report is always caused by the surrounding erectile organs (triggers of female orgasm)." In vaginal sex, the penis can't even reach the organs that make you go woo. So if either of you are frustrated because his thrusting hasn't made you see stars, don't worry. You're not doing it wrong. It's just that you need do so some other kinds of stimulation to get off.

2. Size matters. Women who have trouble having orgasms tend to have a smaller clitoris, and it tends to be farther from the vagina. So if you're having trouble climaxing, that could be the root of your problem.

3. The clitoris is complex. Literally -- it's actually a complex of nerves shaped like a boomerang that extends under the skin. They call it the clitourethrovaginal (CUV) complex. That little nub at the front is just the tip of the iceberg. Someone please make up a new slang term for this because no one wants to say "oh baby, you really light my CUV complex" in bed.

4. The penis is like the clitoris. The CUV complex is made of the same materials as the penis. This has encouraged some scientists to call it the "female penis" because they're sexist knuckleheads. I mean, you could just as easily say "male clitoris" for penis.

5. We get erections, too. It's just that ours happens in places like our labia minora and our clitoris, as I'm sure you've already noticed.

6. There is no G-spot. Another group of scientists say what we've been calling the G-spot is actually just one sensitive part of the CUV complex. So if you're not feeling it there, don't worry. There are other perfectly good parts of the CUV that are just as sensitive.

7. Just call it a "female orgasm." We should stop dividing our orgasms between "clitoral" and "vaginal" and thinking one's better than the other. 'Cause ITS ALL GOOD.

How well does all of this line up with your own experience? Did you always feel like the G-spot/vaginal orgasm was overhyped, or are you wondering if these scientists are from another planet?

 

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