Heartbroken Lovers Heal by Selling Gifts Their Exes Gave Them Online

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Many times when you're trying to put a relationship in your rearview, you think you're moving forward when you suddenly find a memento from that time that can cause you to seriously backslide.

Suddenly, you're feeling the all hurt, rage, sadness, (insert your own emotion here) that you thought you'd moved past. How can something as small as a ring, scarf, or handbag set off a tsunami of feeling? Most often, it's because they're tokens of happier times. 

Rather than keep around these dangerous flashback-inducing souvenirs from a soured romance, what if you could unload them, make some cash, and share your story with others who've been there?

Sounds perfect, right? But where can you find such a place? Enter Never Liked It Anyway, the online resale shop that helps you shed your relationship spoils while formulating a plan for better days ahead. 

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When Samara Hodgson ended a relationship, she wanted to get rid of her baggage -- literally. 

"I sold a handbag he'd given me," says the Aussie native who heard about the website through friends. "Usually when you sell something online, it's dull and boring. But with this site, it's fun and spirited and reminds you to laugh at yourself and remember it's the end of a relationship, not the end of the world."

Hodgson says reading other people's break-up stories and "Bounce Back Plans" -- how they'll spend the cash they acquire from the sales of their casualties -- made her smile. 

Exhibit A: One former wife may not be keeping her engagement ring, but she's certainly maintained her sense of humor. 

"I thought I had found my Prince Charming, but it turns out he was looking for a mom not a princess," she writes, offering her 2.7-carat diamond ring and wedding band for $6,000 -- a deep discount from its appraised value of $17,145. 

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Her "Bounce Back Plan," which co-founder Annabel Acton defines as each woman's Eat, Pray, Love moment, includes the following: 

"My best friend who has stuck by me through everything and I are going to go some place warm with blue waters and lots of drinks with little umbrellas in them."

Sounds good to me! Why hold on to something if the sight of it is only going to cause you pain? 

I have a friend whose husband left her to pursue a relationship with a woman he met online. She felt conflicted: Should she save her engagement ring for her daughter even though she believed it now only represented empty promises, or should she get rid of it and do something to benefit them both in the present?

Ultimately, she sold the emerald-cut sparkler to her neighbor's son who otherwise wouldn't have been able to afford something so lavish, and made some home improvements that both she and her daughter could enjoy together. I know she felt a lot better with the ring out of her life and a new playset in her backyard.

Hodgson says knowing that her things have gone to "a happier place" has also made her feel great about saying good riddance. 

Lida-Maria Lottko agrees. She choose to sell a necklace on the site because "loves the concept." 

"It's a very unique marketplace centered around girls who empathize and empower each other to feel better and make a bargain at the same time," she says. 

Furthering its commitment to mending broken hearts, Never Liked It Anyway donates 10 percent of its profits to the American Heart Association, proving there can be a silver lining to nearly every breakup.

Have you sold something from a previous relationship? Did it make you feel better to be rid of it? 


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