A Lot of Cheating Wives Are Committing a Major Marriage Faux Pas

Unhappy Couple in BedThere's no real rhyme or reason as to why people cheat on their spouses. Sometimes it's a drunken escapade when the marriage is going through a rough spot, and other times it's a full-blown love affair with one or both partners feeling trapped in matrimony.

Sexual conquest, boredom, angry revenge sex, or just because the opportunity presented itself ... the list of reasons why people cheat is basically endless. According to AshleyMadison.com, at least one in five women who cheat do share one particular trait: They're in sexless marriages.


The dating site for married people (yech) surveyed 74,600 members from around the world and discovered that U.S. women aren't getting any at home more than any other nationality.

Around 22 percent of the American women who participated admitted to "having no sex with their husbands at all." A rep from Ashley Madison said, "Our unprecedented global study showed nearly 1 in 5 unhappily married women in the U.S. are in a sexless marriage, and I'm fairly sure that was not what they committed to on their wedding day."

At first glance, it's probably easy to conclude that lack of sex in a marriage leads to extramarital activities, but I'm going to go out on a limb and suggest that the sex is just a symptom of a much greater problem: A marriage with some serious problems.

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The cliche that sex is more physical for men and emotional for women exists for a reason. Women want to feel loved in order to keep that loving feeling alive in the bedroom, so I'd venture a guess that wives who turn down their husbands' invitations to do the deed are feeling lonely and unloved.

Ironically, because sex and love are so closely tied together, women who don't want to have sex because they feel neglected look to find that loving feeling by having sex with someone else. Of course that then alienates them further from their husbands, the marriage gets rockier, and the whole thing is just a big old mess.

So what's a girl to do when she finds herself in a sexless marriage? It's probably healthier to examine the reasons why rather than opt for an affair.

Why do you think people cheat on their spouses?


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