When it comes to marriage, there are no hard and fast rules about what "works" -- every couple is different. But if you're Italian Catholic wife Costanza Miriano, being married means "being submissive" to your husband. In a book that's causing a storm of controversy in Spain, Miriano writes:
It's true, you're not yet an experienced cook or a perfect housewife. What's the problem if he (your husband) tells you so? Tell him that he is right, that it's true, that you will learn. On seeing your sweetness and your humility, your effort to change, this will also change him.
Err, boy. Can't imagine why that's ruffling feathers. The book, Get Married and Be Submissive, first published in Italy, advises women to "be loyal and obedient" to their husbands. It's based on the Bible's teachings of St. Paul. So that must make it okay!
Other gems from the book reportedly include:
- If you only do what is right for you, what you think, then you are not married to a man, you are married to yourself. Instead of doing that, you should submit to him.- [Women] like humiliation because it is for a greater good.
- I believe that at the bottom of the human being there is a sense of emptiness that fills only giving themselves completely to someone. This is the way of happiness.
- Submissive is the way to make room, to accept, to be put under as the columns of a cathedral, as the foundation.
Bad translations aside, I think we get the point. I'm not sure what it all means, though. Women are supposed to do whatever their husband tells them? That's fucking scary. So if your husband rules every aspect of your life, abuses you, beats your children, cheats, refuses to allow you to make a living, gambles or drinks away all the money, and whatever else, you're just supposed to go along with it? Because it's a wife's duty to be submissive? Glad it's your life, not mine, but feel sorry for your kids.