Bible-Loving Woman Tells Wives to Be 'Submissive' in Marriage

When it comes to marriage, there are no hard and fast rules about what "works" -- every couple is different. But if you're Italian Catholic wife Costanza Miriano, being married means "being submissive" to your husband. In a book that's causing a storm of controversy in Spain, Miriano writes:

It's true, you're not yet an experienced cook or a perfect housewife. What's the problem if he (your husband) tells you so? Tell him that he is right, that it's true, that you will learn. On seeing your sweetness and your humility, your effort to change, this will also change him.

Err, boy. Can't imagine why that's ruffling feathers. The book, Get Married and Be Submissive, first published in Italy, advises women to "be loyal and obedient" to their husbands. It's based on the Bible's teachings of St. Paul. So that must make it okay!


Other gems from the book reportedly include:

- If you only do what is right for you, what you think, then you are not married to a man, you are married to yourself. Instead of doing that, you should submit to him.

- [Women] like humiliation because it is for a greater good.

And in an interview with the Spanish version of the Huffington Post, Miriano writes:

- I believe that at the bottom of the human being there is a sense of emptiness that fills only giving themselves completely to someone. This is the way of happiness.

- Submissive is the way to make room, to accept, to be put under as the columns of a cathedral, as the foundation.

Bad translations aside, I think we get the point. I'm not sure what it all means, though. Women are supposed to do whatever their husband tells them? That's fucking scary. So if your husband rules every aspect of your life, abuses you, beats your children, cheats, refuses to allow you to make a living, gambles or drinks away all the money, and whatever else, you're just supposed to go along with it? Because it's a wife's duty to be submissive? Glad it's your life, not mine, but feel sorry for your kids.
Or maybe the author is just talking about more garden-variety submissiveness, i.e. cooking, cleaning, and god forbid not disagreeing with the Man of the House.
Hey, ladies, if that works for you in your marriage, have fun. Don't come crying to me when your husband dumps you in your 50s or 60s for a younger woman and you can't make any money because you have no job skills. (And don't expect your daughter to support you because she's too busy taking care of her husband not learning any job skills either.)

The sad part is, there are a lot of women who will defend this tosh -- until the day it doesn't work for them. Then they'll just claim ignorance, or blame it on their devotion to the Bible. But meanwhile they've spread this dangerous load of nonsense far and wide.
Miriano denies that her book justifies violence against women and says this is just what works for her and her friends. I suspect in ten years, Miriano will have a different story.
But even if it does work for her and her pals, it's an egregious message to send out to women. I'm sure we'll hear a lot of women defending it though, because misery loves company. And as Rhett Butler once said, "How closely women clutch the very chains that bind them!"
Anyway, I doubt husbands these days really want this submissive thing brought to the extreme either. How many guys actually want to or even can completely financially support their wives these days?
I'm think going to write a book, Husbands, Shut Up and Fetch Me a Beer.
Are you a submissive wife? If so, explain below.
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