I love food, and I love chivalry, so at first glance, a website promising to match the two of them might be a fantastic idea. But there’s something not quite right about online dating site HiDine, which promises to do just that.
The recently launched site operates on the premise that “chivalry is alive” and matches up women who like to be wined and dined with the men who want to wine and dine them. Basically, the men have to buy dinner, and the ladies are just supposed to show up and look pretty.
The site states:
At HiDine, we believe in old-fashioned chivalry. Men pay for first dates. You spend enough time and money on clothes, shoes, hair styling, and beauty products. Before you even sit down at the table with a guy, you have made an investment in the date in order to look your best. Any guy should appreciate that. And the last thing you should worry about is who is going to pick up the bill.
Some critics say that this setup is “antiquated and transactional,” but I think only the “transactional” label sticks.
I’m a huge fan of the antiquated concept of men paying for dates, and not just for free food. I like the idea of a man wanting me to feel cared and provided for. I like getting dolled up, and I want a man to feel proud when I’m on his arm.
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But there’s a subtly and tactfulness about it that HiDine negates -- therefore making the process too transactional. Of course I will offer to split the check when the bill comes. A gentleman will know that while I’d be willing to pay, he’s much more likely to get a second date by saying he wouldn’t think of inviting me out to dinner without footing the bill.
One of my favorite quotes is by Maggie Thatcher, who said, “Power is like being a lady ... if you have to tell people you are, you aren’t.”
Maybe if you have to tell people you’re chivalrous by signing up for a site that says you are ... you’re not.
Do you think HiDine is really concerned with chivalry?
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