The Secret to Boosting Your Shot at a Happy Marriage

wedding ringsWe've discussed what makes a man husband material, but if you're single, it's easy to find yourself wondering sometimes, "Where the hell are these guys? Do they even exist?" I'm no fairy godmother, but I am a former frustrated single girl-turned-happy Mrs., so I can attest to the fact that yes, they are out there. You just have to look in the right place: Online.

Hey, new research even proves it! Well, sort of. eHarmony (yes, the online dating site) commissioned a study that found nearly 8 percent of marriages initiated offline ended in breakups, while couples who met online reported lower rates of separation and divorce -- 6 percent. Two whole percentage points! I know, what a buncha BS, right?

Still, I can believe there's definitely some truth to this, being that I met my husband online.


In the past, when he'd jokingly resist the idea of getting married one day, and now, whenever we bicker lightheartedly about how we want to raise our kids, I'd always remind myself that our relationship began on the Jewish dating site, JDate. Thus, marriage and raising a Jewish family obviously mattered to my husband enough for him to join not just any dating site but one geared toward helping people find a long-term partner.

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That mirrors what the lead author of the study says about why relationships that begin online might have a higher (albeit slightly) success rate. He explained in a press release on the findings:

It is possible that individuals who met their spouse online may be different in personality, motivation to form a long-term marital relationship, or some other factor.

Well, yeah. You're not going to make a concerted effort to go online, pay with a credit card, fill out questionnaires and personal profiles galore, sweat over which photos should go with said profiles, hunt through other people's profiles, and endure a plethora of IM chats, phone calls, and dates if you're not, you know, somewhat serious about settling down.

The bottom-line: Serious online dating (meaning on sites specifically geared to finding someone with whom to get serious -- not sites that are often frequented by people looking for hookups!) presents a lot more hoops to jump through than say, meeting someone at a bar and striking up a conversation. Hence you're going to end up eventually, hopefully finding someone a bit more interested in building a successful relationship. In other words, if you're on the market for marriage material, going online may, most likely, be your best bet.

Do you buy that couples who meet online have a higher success rate?


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