Do Men Hit on You More When You Look Like a Hot Mess?

dressing downOne of the things that women learn pretty quickly in the world of dating is that the female standard of beauty and the male one are often greatly at odds. Women prefer Jennifer Aniston -- cute, perky, perfectly dressed, perfectly manicured -- while men would rather Angelina Jolie -- sexy, a little messy, natural, often undone.

The reality is, I have often found the less I do to myself, the more my husband enjoys it. "Did you put lipstick on?" he will ask me, giving me a disapproving look. But when I am completely natural, not made up, and hair unbrushed, he's all: "HELLO."

I'm not alone, either. Women talk about the time about how they get hit on more when they are a "hot mess" than when they get all done up. And it makes perfect sense.


There is something vaguely untouchable about a woman who is perfectly done. Plus, as my husband always points out, it's fake.

Men prefer someone real, someone down to Earth. Most of the time, anyway. A woman who is approachable is much more appealing than someone who looks like a perfectionist or like one makeup nick will ruin her whole day.

There is also something to be said for comfort. A woman who is comfortable in her skin is sexy. She may be in sweats or PJs, but her body is still visible and she feels good. There is no constrictive fabric or heels digging into her skin. She can move freely and be herself.

That's sex appeal, baby.

So the next time you feel bad about yourself and think you look a hot mess, look around. Your Lululemon yoga pants may FEEL unsexy as hell, but you would be surprised how many people are checking out the rear view while you saunter by.

Meanwhile, I am never getting dressed up again. This is the perfect excuse.

Do you think men hit on you more when you are messy?


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