Laughing About Your Spouse's Ridiculous Behavior Is the Key to a Happy Marriage

How to add more laughter into your relationshipThis week my husband was away on business for a couple of days, but before he left, he made his famous "lentil beef" Crock-Pot recipe. As you might imagine, having a pre-made meal was a huge help being alone with four kids, and I thanked him for making it.

Of course, it only involved him putting beef and a can of lentil soup in a slow cooker and turning it on, but whatever. It tastes good and the kids love it.

But when he got home the next day, he decided to make a huge deal about how awesome he was for cooking it. And you might be surprised at how I responded.


I'd like to think I'm a bit of a scorekeeper due to my near-photographic memory, but really, when you've got a husband who travels and you're home with four kids, it's really easy to get caught up in keeping track of how little time you've had alone or how many diapers you've changed.

Over the years, I've gotten a lot better about ditching the score sheet, mostly because I know how much damage it can do to a relationship. And because he's gotten a bit better about being more appreciative of what I do while he's gone.

So when he decided to gloat about the one meal he's made compared to my 40,000 (a low, rough estimate), I didn't do what I wanted to do, which was remind him of every single time I've made numerous meals for him when I travel. Or all the dinners and lunches and breakfasts I make pretty much every single day.

That doesn't mean I didn't mention them. But I did it with humor, rather than revenge.

And instead of turning the ridiculousness into a pretty big fight about who does more, we just had a hearty chuckle about his amazing two-ingredient Crock-Pot meal.

In all honesty, I still think it's more than silly for him to brag about the meal he made given the circumstances. It would be like me reminding him constantly about the one time I mowed the lawn or washed the car, two things that are decidedly his "jobs" around the house.

But I'm proud of myself that I was able to leave the score sheet tucked away in my drawer and just enjoy my husband's need for attention. Besides, as I try to remind myself, when it comes to parenting and relationships -- if I weren't laughing, I'd probably be crying. 

What are some ridiculous things your spouse does that you just have to laugh at?

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