Sex Confession: I Prefer Being With Overweight Men

holding hands shadow"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.

Today we're hearing it from Andrea*, a 33-year-old single mom who just got engaged to the man of her dreams. His name is Jack* and he's not the type who worries about what he looks like -- he doesn't have six-pack abs or even one can left. He's overweight and it's exactly how Andrea likes him. Andrea says that not only is Jack the most incredible guy she's met, but he's also a great lover and she credits his extra pounds for that. Let's hear more of what Andrea has to say in her own words.


Jack isn't the first overweight guy I've been with, but I will say that I hope he is my last. I love this man -- he is great to me, he is amazing with my son, and he wants to have more kids with me. I was single for a long time and in that time I dated a lot. It wasn't always easy, but I was lucky and had my parents who helped me out. I also got very, very lucky when I met Jack. I dated all kinds of men, and what I realized is that overweight guys make better lovers. They are more caring and loving and they don't overly concern themselves with all the ridiculous body image stuff far too many of us worry about.

I will admit that I got caught up in that too. I was worried about my post-baby body, worried that my stomach looked fat, worried that I wasn't fitting into a size 4. But the truth is once I got over those insecurities, once I realized that looking stick-figure thin isn't natural for all people, I accepted myself -- for who I was. I'm not overweight, I'm just not naturally thin, and I am okay with that. Once I was okay with that, I felt more confident and more at ease with myself and this also trickled down to how I felt when I was romantic with anyone. When I was worried about a flabby belly or love handles, that's when I wasn't relaxed and didn't enjoy myself during sex. When I accepted me for me, I was able to have better sex! And I think it made me a better lover, too. Same thing with men. 

I know some people are naturally thin, some are not. Whatever your body type, the more you accept yourself, the more you will get out of sex. And what I also noticed with guys who accepted themselves, particularly the guys who were overweight -- even just slightly -- is that they tried harder. They were more romantic, they were more eager to please, they cared more about my pleasure, and overall were just better lovers.

Some of my friends have called me a "chubby chaser" and I don't care. I like what I like. And I wish they knew that sex can really be better if they are with a guy who isn't afraid to put on some pounds.

What do you think of this confession? Do you agree?


*Names have been changed.


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