You Won't Believe How Many Couples Aren't Having Sex

KissesThere’s something to be said for the physical dexterity and feral desire that goes along with sex. Done right, it’s hot, it’s sweaty, it’s passionate, and it leaves you breathless, flushed, and exhausted. (Phew! I’m too descriptive for my own good. Moving on…)

Sadly, 40 million people aren’t experiencing that euphoria for whatever reason. That’s the number of folks who are part of a sexless couple, to the tune of 10 to 20 percent of the romantic relationships in the country. And they’re just the ones who are being honest about not getting busy on a regular basis. There could very well be more.

So at least forty million people having sex less than 10 times a year explains a whole heck of a lot about tension, anxiety, short-temperedness, and why it’s so hard to get good customer service. 


The answer to that chasm in copulation, according to Jill Blakeway, author of the forthcoming Sex Again: Recharging Your Libido, is kissing. A dwindling appreciation for good ol’ fashioned lip-locking—especially when lovers hit their 40s and 50s—is the first step to losing passion in a relationship, she claimed in an interview with the Huffington Post, adding that she’s had patients who kiss their dog hello before they kiss their husbands. Umm, yikes.

I’d say it’s a big, bright telltale sign that something’s amiss with your sex drive as a couple when you’re more pressed for a slobbery pooch smooch than some lip action from your life partner. I mean, that really puts things into perspective.

Kisses helped most of us discover our sexuality, not only because we spent so much time having to sneak to get them in, but because they would make everything get tingly and kick those gears “down there” into go status. So it seems pretty much like right that the way to get that old thing back is to make out like your ship’s going down. It makes things hot, true, but kissing also reduces stress and creates a connection between the two folks doing the two-lip tango.

Plus, there’s just something to be said for the seduction of a kiss. The closeness, the heavy breathing, the soft touches, the intimacy that teases the senses. It’s sexy. (It should be, anyway.) If you need a little help getting back into the kissing groove, check out Blakeway’s tips for taking your little polite pecks into smoldering hot smooches.

Do you and your honey kiss as much as you used to?

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