Arnold Schwarzenegger Wants to Save His Marriage for the Wrong Reasons

maria shriver and arnold schwarzeneggerThere's nothing like a tale of redemption and love conquering all. Especially nothing like one that takes place in front of the whole world between two incredibly magnetic, powerful people. That's why we're all glued to the story of Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver's possible reconciliation ... almost a year after the news broke that the former Governator had an affair and a child with the family's longtime housekeeper.

According to new reports, Maria and Arnold aren't moving forward with a divorce. Instead, they've been going to couples therapy in an attempt to work things out, sources told The New York Post. Definitely feels a bit shocking, given the circumstances that led them to this point.

And as admirable as it is for them to try their darndest to stay committed to a lifelong vow, not all marriages deserve a second shot.

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Don't get me wrong. You'll often find me railing out about how most people in my parents' and my own generation seem to have the attention span of fleas, and it's disgraceful to watch people walk out on their marriages so quickly over and over again, without even making a valiant effort to fix problem(s). And -- deep breath -- that's why divorce is so prevalent these days. However, in a case like Maria and Arnold's, where one partner committed adultery but lied and cheated for YEARS behind his wife's back and humiliated her publicly in such a huge way ... it's definitely not about giving up too quickly. It's about a completely broken relationship. And trying desperately to turn your dog of a husband into someone he's not sounds so much worse than throwing in the towel.

Not to mention that you have to be trying to "make it work" for the right reasons. Sources tell the Post that Maria wants to give the reconciliation a shot, because she just doesn't believe in divorce, being Catholic and all. And Arnold, well, he wants to prove to Maria he's a changed man, but it also sounds like he knows that winning her back would help his career. A friend of the couple revealed:

[Arnold] is promising the moon and telling Maria he has completely changed his ways. Maria’s friends are warning her to be careful, saying he’ll never change. Arnold is desperate to win her back, mostly because he realizes he can’t live without her, and partly because he doesn’t have the political clout without her. Winning her back would be the best way to show the world he has been forgiven for his transgressions.

Sounds fishy to me ... and not necessarily like the foundation for a healthy sequel to their marriage!

Here's the deal: There are certainly instances where people can and should give their relationship another go, but not when the marriage is very clearly broken, toxic, and full of distrust. It's especially sad in Maria and Arnold's case, because there are children involved, and their decisions play out in front of the press and the public. In the end, all that matters is Maria does what makes her happiest -- whether that's as a married or a divorced woman.

Do you think Maria and Arnold should reconcile? Do you agree not all marriages are worth attempting to save?


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