Heidi Klum & Seal Prove 'Perfect Marriage' Is a Myth

Raise your hand if you thought model Heidi Klum and singer Seal had the perfect marriage. If you're like most of us, you have your hand high in the air. They SEEMED so happy. They SEEMED so relaxed and perfect with their rockin' Halloween parties and their seemingly sexy marriage. So what went so wrong?

It's the age old question and it has no good answer, but the fact is, it does reveal the sad truth about other people's marriages. From the outside looking in, we can't tell what another person's marriage is like.

Personally, in my life, I have seen several marriages I think are atrocious from the outside, but they keep on hanging in there. Meanwhile marriages that appeared to be perfect have split. What gives?


The answer is simple and cliched: You can't judge a book by its cover. You may think you can and, Lord knows, we all do. I can't count the number of times my husband and I have analyzed another couple's marriage inside and outside, but we're always wrong.

After about the fifth "perfect" marriage we loved broke up, we stopped judging. All those couples who seemed so respectful and happy and devoid of conflict were the ones who were secretly having affairs (apparently), and all those marriages that seemed so full of conflict and strife have managed to keep on chugging.

The fact is, the breakup of a marriage is dependent on a number of factors, very few of which have to do with the actual marriage itself. I have heard tales of women married to closeted gay men or men who were drinking every day and night or who had just plain fallen out of love, but because they didn't "believe in divorce," they have stuck it out.

Sticking it out isn't always indicative of a good marriage or a positive experience. Sometimes it just shows a willingness to stick it out and nothing more.

It's probably true that good marriages are easy to spot. When people look at one another with love and respect, when they still hold hands and laugh at each other's jokes. These are all the moments that matter and do tell others you have a happy marriage. But an unhappy marriage isn't always a reason people divorce and some people are better at hiding their conflicts than others.

There are no perfect marriages, and no matter how badly we want to know it all, we don't. The fact is, no one really knows what is going on in someone else's bedroom and marriage.

Have you ever seen a "perfect couple" divorce?


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