Sinead O’Connor Heads for Divorce and the Nearest Sex Shop

CelibacyThe new year is not getting off to a good start for poor Sinead O’Connor. She admitted to overdosing on pills in a suicide attempt and publicly pleaded with her followers for a good psychiatric referral on Twitter last week. Now, after a month of marriage to her husband Barry Herridge — less than that if you factor in their separation after just 16 days — the troubled singer is heading for her fourth divorce and, according to her, her final attempt at romance.

It also sounds like Sinead is planning on being celibate and indulging in a little self-service from here on out. "I will never again associate myself romantically with anyone…,” she said in a statement on her website. "I have ten fingers and a number of toys (not really the toys. But need them now so maybe u cud all post me some!” Hey, I can’t blame her. 


Sinead was divorced in April after less than a year in that marriage, engaged again later in 2011, and married two other times before that. With four kids and four divorces under her belt, I think she’s pretty darn smart to steer clear of the opposite sex and anybody with an engagement ring, at least for the time being. I think the best thing you can do after a breakup is take some downtime from anything related to guys, relationships, and hot nights of unbridled passion. Gets your head all scrambled up.  

When emotions are high — and worse, hormones — a vulnerable gal can end up making regrettable decisions, like finding solace in the space between a bed and another big, hairy man or, just as bad or maybe worse, strolling down the aisle with someone else to fill the void. It’s a back-to-back chain of disappointments and the succession of failed relationships can wear on your spirit. You need some downtime in between.

A few weeks ago, I posted my opinion that Jennifer Lopez needed some “her time” after she ceased to be Mrs. Marc Anthony. I doubt she’s doing that, what with her latest backup dancer boy toy and all, but I think that dry period allows you to reflect on what was good about the last relationship. Just so you aren’t remembering it in the context of the pre-breakup era and can pinpoint what you want liked about it so you can build on that for the next go-round in romance and avoid the qualities you didn’t like (unless, of course, you’re Ms. O’Connor). 

I don’t know how serious dear Sinead is about being sex-free now that she’s single, but I applaud her. Celibacy gives you clarity, focus, and discipline, particularly after an emotional experience like a breakup. Wait, let me elaborate that one. I’m talking about voluntary celibacy, not the I’m-just-in-a-little-dating-slump-and-haven’t-been-able-to-score-in-a-while kind. Stocking up on sex toys might be wise if she’s really committed to sticking it out. But it’s better than waking up next to a regret.

Have you ever been through a period of celibacy? How did that work out for you?


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