J. Lo May Not Know This, But She Needs a Dating Time Out

Jennifer LopezI typically don’t care for the goings-on in Celebrityville. Who’s dating who, who’s laying up in who’s bed, who’s shacking up behind the scenes of X reality TV show or scripted melodrama. It’s all too exhausting to keep up with, especially considering my own life is full of enough tales to fuel a few blog posts a day. But dangit, I’ve got to comment on this one.

J. Lo., my dear, I need you to come up for air. You always seem to have a man. Always. Even back when you were a Fly Girl on In Living Color or Random Chick A dancing in the background of a Janet Jackson video, you had a dude. Yes, you’re quite beautiful and your figure has made you famous but sheesh. Give yourself some breathing space. 


I’m starting to believe it’s not a matter of choice, but that you’re one of those women who actually think you need a man. Maybe to be validated, maybe to chase away the lonely, maybe to keep you from feeling things you may not be ready to emotionally confront. But it’s becoming pretty obvious that you don’t like spending too much time alone.

What makes me shake my head even harder and furrow my brow even deeper is that you wanted to be a mother. So be a mother. And when that duty calls, you can’t just hop on a plane and go halfway around the world on a romantic tryst with your latest boy toy. You can’t jetset on a whim like you did before you had little ones. And please, for the love of all that makes good sense, don’t have your kids hanging around a man whose romantic shelf life will probably be as long as another celebrity marriage that’s not worth mentioning by name.

We’ve all got to learn from our past mistakes and I swear, three failed marriages, a shoot-out on the arm of Diddy, a fresh divorce announcement, and enough tongue-wagging to last a lifetime ought to be at the heart of your hard-knock lessons in love. Take some you time. I don’t think you’ve had some of that in a long, long while. Plenty of other action but no just one-on-one, focus-on-you time. Go into your next relationship refreshed and renewed, not rushed. And certainly not just for the sake of having a warm body in your bed or a new beau by your side.

In the meantime, while you figure it all out — and I sincerely hope you do — I can’t fault Casper Smart, the newest addition to the Jennifer Lopez Collection, for grabbing a ride on the 15-minute celebrity gravy train. When opportunity knocked, he answered and hit paydirt in the process. Cha-ching.

Is it unhealthy to be in back-to-back relationships without a break?


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