The Fear of Having More Babies Is Killing My Sex Life

vasectomy family guyThis is a little bit personal, so I apologize if I'm over-sharing. Also, stop reading right here, Mom. I haven't had a vasectomy and it's wrecking havoc on my sex life.

Basically, any moment of love and lust that my wife and I manage to make time for is immediately thwarted by the fear factor. No, that's not another name for the rhythm method.

We don't want any more children. The mere possibility of it leaves us terrified and, frankly, not feeling very sexy.


To be clear, this has nothing to do with the kids that we have. They are our world. If they play a role in this discussion at all, it's that we are very happy with what we have got and where we are at. The youngest is 5-years-old, and we don't want to start over again.

We have moved, as a family, to the next level of responsibility and independence. That doesn't mean that we are any less hands on -- it just means that our hands aren't on diapers and 2 a.m. feedings. We're good with that.

You're probably asking why I haven't had the vasectomy. It's an insurance thing. I'm a freelance writer, and as such I don't have health insurance that covers the procedure, nor the income to pay for it out of pocket. And they don't make a home-kit.

In the meantime we rely on the same combination of over-the-counter contraception that we have for the past 10+ years, and while we were once willing to roll the dice on the odds, these days we don't like the chances.

Need more information on the vasectomy procedure? Here's an instructional video for you (NSFWish):

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