Kim Kardashian Should Have Gotten Premarital Counseling

kim kardashian kris humphries birthday at the darbyAs we continue to attempt to dissect it, the truth remains: The Kim Kardashian-Kris Humphries whirlwind romance, "fairy tale" wedding, and impending divorce may have been destined no matter what. Regardless of the reality TV special, the tabloid covers, and all the other pressures that Kim blames for pushing her down the aisle when she knew it was all wrong. Still, I can't help but think maybe, just maybe ... if she and Kris had done one thing differently, they could have at least saved that wasteful $10 mil. that was spent on the wedding. They should have gone to premarital counseling.

It's a given among Catholic couples, and I've always loved hearing the stories from my Catholic friends. Those Pre-Cana sessions seem to cover some interesting territory!

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For instance, a friend of mine told me that she and her hubby-to-be took questionnaires that covered all different areas of their life together -- from children to sex drive. Although they had been together over four years by the time they said "I do," they learned a thing or two about one another in their Pre-Cana course. Things that would probably come in handy down the road.

We're not Catholic, but when my BF and I get engaged, I'd like to look into doing premarital counseling. Even though his mom gave me a look -- you know, that look, raised eyebrows, etc. -- when I mentioned it to her, I feel like it would serve a slew of different purposes. Such as:

  • It helps mark a transition from just "living together" to taking those serious vows. It may "just be a piece of paper," but I've heard and believe it makes a difference when you cross that threshold in your relationship. So why not give it the lead-up and pomp and circumstance it deserves?
  • It helps a couple carve out a dedicated time and space for conversation in the midst of all the craziness that is wedding planning (which can often distract a couple from focusing on what the wedding is actually about -- spending their lives together!).
  • It gives a couple the chance to clear the air about issues they may have had in the back of their minds or that they may have never actually considered until it comes up in counseling.
  • It can give you the opportunity to learn something new/interesting about your partner.

But most of all, premarital counseling seems like it would be the perfect way to preempt arguments, miscommunication, or any kind of disconnect that is bound to crop up at one point or another during your marriage. (Statistically, it reduces the risk of divorce by 30 percent!) Of course you're not going to be able to cover all the territory, but my hope is that the experience would help us create an even more solid foundation for our life together. Any healthy couple should want to do premarital counseling for that reason -- there's no shame in it!

In Kris and Kim's case, we all know premarital counseling could have helped them realize that they weren't compatible. It's water under the bridge now, but their misstep could and should serve as a lesson to couples everywhere.

What do you think about premarital counseling? Did you do it or do you plan to?

 

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