Everyone! Drop what you're doing, call your husband, and get busy. Dr. Oz and his wife Lisa sat down with Shape magazine for their November issue and shared details about how they keep the love flame burning after having been married for 26 years. The key? Something about lighting "your own damn candles" (we'll get to that) and having a ton of sex. Hey! Now there's something interesting.
Dr. Oz, who's been Oprah's medical guru since 2004 and who now has his own show, says that sexual intimacy is of the utmost importance if you want to have a fulfilling, long-lasting relationship. His prescription is sex with your partner twice a week, every week.
Whoa ho ho, there, Ozzy! That is a heap-ton of pressure. I'm sure that's not his intention, but dang, once you start telling people how many times a week to have sex in order to have a "healthy" relationship, it might make couples too anxious to perform. He argues that it's been scientifically proven that sex twice a week adds three years to your life and, while that may be true, I think his wife Lisa's advice is more manageable.
Lisa told Shape that they're a happy couple because she's found ways to make her own bliss.
For years I wanted Mehmet to work less and play with me more. I've come to realize you can’t sit around and wait for the other person to do the things you want to do. If you want him to be more romantic, be more romantic yourself. In other words, light your own damn candles!
To me, that totally makes sense. Sometimes in long-term relationships, we get bored with our partners but put the onus on them to spice things up. Sounds like Lisa takes matters into her own hands, and it sounds like it's been working for them. She goes on to say that having sex as much as possible is also beneficial because once that spark goes out, it's hard to rekindle.
I'm digging the Ozes' advice. As long as couples make sex and their happiness a priority, they'll be successful in the long run. And that's some health tip -- lots easier to follow than, say, eating less and exercising. More sex for everyone!
What do you think of the Ozes' relationship advice?
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