The 'New' Reason Your Marriage Is Failing

space bar on computerIf you need another excuse for why your marriage isn't working anymore, just keep surfing the web. Spending more time on here than you do out there (in the "real" world) gives you one more thing to pass the blame on for a failing marriage.

Let's face it, the Internet is a huge distraction. And we all know that a distraction is something that keeps us from having to deal with the issues and problems in our relationships. It's even easier to point fingers at something that can't point back, so it makes perfect sense to use the web as an excuse for not connecting with your partner. And while the Internet can't make you do anything, it can conveniently help you avoid doing everything. It's an easy way (to tune) out.


I'm sure collectively we can think of a number of other reasons why people check out of their marriages. Money. Lack of intimacy and/or communication. The in-laws. Growing apart. But what we don't often think about is how to check back in. And no matter how much time you spend online, it's how you spend your time offline that matters. Relationships take devotion and practice.

So is the Internet to blame for ruined marriages? For some yes. Some, not at all.

The Internet can be a great resource for healthy relationships. It can provide you with new ideas on how to have the same sex different ways and it can enhance your relationship by leading to discussions you wouldn't have even thought to have. It's a place where you can watch sexy videos, send sexy tweets, and communicate with each other on a whole other level. Sure, being online makes it easier to check out of your marriage, but being online isn't really why you check out of your marriage. You check out of your marriage because it's over and you're done, or because you don't have the effective resources to get things back on track.

I say buck up. When the going gets tough, it's time to stop gazing at the screen, and start gazing into each other's eyes.

Do you think the Internet can ruin a marriage? 

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