Skipping Sex Can Improve Love Life

For most of us, it's hard to imagine love with the opposite sex without the sex and intimacy that accompany it. After all, isn't sex what makes us different than "just friends"?

For some, like Laura Brashier, a stage 4 cervical cancer survivor, there is simply no choice. Sex is no longer an option, but the 50-year-old still wanted to date. This is the reason she started 2date4love.com, a website that describes itself as "
a dating site that enables people who cannot engage in sexual intercourse to meet and experience love, companionship, and intimacy at its deepest level."

But is that even possible?

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The answer: Of course it is. Plenty of people are able to have intimacy beyond sexual intercourse. Intercourse is nice and fun and certainly the go-to sex act for most heterosexual couples, but it isn't the be-all, end-all of sexual intimacy. There are other ways to be intimate and loving.

This is where the Internet is such a blessing. There are online dating websites for people with specific sexual fetishes, STDs, fantasies, and now sexual limitations, too. And why not?

Isn't it nice to know up front how things are going to roll? In many ways the concept is intriguing. Without intercourse on the table, imagine the possibilities. Back before I had sex, I remember some of the steamiest sexual encounters of my life just playing around the idea. It would be like a return to that.

Come to think of it, this is something all couples may want to try. Though for many, the circumstances around choosing to abstain from intercourse are painful, but the idea itself could actually increase intimacy among even couples who are having intercourse.

Intercourse isn't the only path to love and intimacy, and it's about time people started to recognize that. Just because a person can't have intercourse doesn't mean they can't have great, amazing love and connection.

Do you think intimacy can exist without sex?

 

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