Smart Women Don't Have Sex With Married Men

It's very common when a man has an affair for the wife to hate the "other woman" more than she hates her husband. People will usually tell her it's not HER fault he cheated. SHE didn't take the vows. Well, guess what: They are wrong.

A recent article in The Daily Mail is billed as "Confessions of a Marriage Wrecker" and certainly it's compelling. The 40-year-old woman spent her 30s with a married man who did, in fact, leave his wife for her (after she found out and kicked him out), but the relationship still fell apart and she was left unhappy, unmarried, and childless.

Yes, she got hers in the end. She paid for her mistake. But guess who paid more? His wife and daughter.


Maybe it's unfair and maybe it's a double standard (it probably is), but I expect more from women than I do from men. I expect them to think more emotionally and less physically, and I expect them to respect the bonds of marriage.

I know it sounds crazy. After all, why should someone not in the marriage respect the marriage more than the one in it? And also: If he doesn't cheat with one woman, he will cheat with another. A cheater is a cheater is a cheater.

The problem is, I don't believe that. I believe anyone can be a cheater with the right circumstances and anyone can not be a cheater as well. If women made a pact not to date married men, then it would be pretty hard to cheat, no? Look, we live an in ugly world. Horrible things happen constantly and there is pain and hurt and people do crappy things.

But why should we contribute to that? Sure, all is fair in love and war, but is that what you want to do? Do you want to be the reason a little girl is sobbing because she lost her daddy?

Men (and women) will cheat as long as there are people willing to cheat with them. So maybe the smartest thing we woman can do is NOT be that woman. It's a free world. We're allowed to do whatever we want. But that doesn't mean we should or that anything we want is OK.

Bad karma, people. Why have your legacy on Earth be that of a "marriage wrecker"?

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