Nick Lachey & Vanessa Minnillo Caught in Newlywed Trap

nick lachey & vanessa minnilloNick Lachey and Vanessa Minnillo celebrated their two-week anniversary yesterday (everyone together now: awwww) and the newlyweds predictably still can't get enough of one another. They dated for about five years before tying the knot, and Nick told People that it doesn't feel that much different now that they're married -- it's back to business as usual. But ... something's not adding up.

'Business as usual' for most couples means something like coffee in the morning, a quick kiss, separate trips to separate jobs, and a reconvening of marital bliss sometime around 6 or 7 at night. But for Nick and Jessica Vanessa, 'usual' means Vanessa going to the set of Sing-Off to watch Nick work, and to offer advice on his job performance.

Ah oh.

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Newlyweds ... they're so cute, aren't they? They just want to snuggle all the time, give butterfly kisses, feed each other strawberries, and watch a Style Network marathon of Giuliana & Bill together on the couch under that weird fleecy blanket with a giant heart on it that Aunt Susan crocheted for them as a wedding present. They're adorbs -- they're just caught in that newlywed trap of togetherness.

And Nick and Vanessa aren't immune to the short-term bliss that is newlywed territory, even thought they dated for a while. Case in point: The take-your-spouse-to-work scenario. Think that will still be desirable in five years? Think Nick will still want Vanessa waiting in the wings, watching his every move, just bursting with advice on how he could do his hosting job better? I don't think so.

I think it's more about independence after a few years of marriage than it is about co-dependence. For example, newlyweds likely enjoy sharing the same side of the booth ... not so much after years of marriage. Not because there's less love (there might even be more!), but it's just time for a little space. I personally communicate such a desire for a little breathing room by saying, "Too hot. No touchies." Works in the bed, works in a booth, works pretty much everywhere. (Hint: Doesn't matter if you're actually warm or not.) Sometimes we all need a little alone time, even when we're together.

Point is that the need for your spouse to be present in every minor and major aspect of your life fades over time. Nick and Vanessa might be all into watching each other work now, but give it few months or years -- my bet is that they'll grow out of it. And I don't think that's such a bad thing. Too hot, no touchies.

What do you think?


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