To Sext or Not to Sext: That Is the Question

sexterA survey of 5,100 adults showed that 66 percent of women have sexted, while only 50 percent of men admitted to the dirty deed. With politicians leading the way, sexting has become a household name ... and in some cases, a household duty. The survey, taken on AshleyMadison.com, which is a site to help married people find partners for an affair, isn't especially surprising. Well, let me rephrase that.

It's surprising to me that so many women sext, but it's not a surprise that more women sext then men. I mean, how many times have you stood in line at the grocery store staring at the women's magazines with headlines like "Spice Up Your Love Life With Naughty Pic!" or something to that effect.

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I feel like the media has told me a few times that the way to save my relationship, the way to keep things fresh in the bedroom, the way to my man's heart is through sexting. If not sexting specifically, it was taking naughty photos and leaving them some place only he could find.

Historically speaking, I guess the first sext was sent in the 1840s when Mrs. Smith stashed some suggestive photos of herself in Mr. Smith's satchel. So it's a tale that's been told many times before: Naked woman + camera + a bottle of wine = sext, or a version thereof. It's a tale as old as time (almost).

So to sext or not to sext, that is the question. It seems like many of you out there, two thirds of you at least, are into it, even though one third of you aren't getting a sext back from your man. (I for one would never like to receive any sexts of any kind, so please think twice before sending me a photo of you in your skivvies ... or worse.) Are you sexting with your partner, or with a mystery man?

Sexting these days seems to be for the behind-the-scenes set, and not for the loving partner to the loving partner. It's not like Weiner was sexting his wife, after all. Maybe I would be less adverse to the idea if there wasn't infidelity implied.

Maybe those in committed relationships can reclaim the sext, make it their own, take it back from cheating partners and horny tweens. Maybe a new generation of sexters will blaze a trail of safe sexts. Then again, maybe not.

Do you sext?


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