Whether fairy tales, Hollywood, or magazines or all of 'em are to blame, many of us fantasize about The Big Day from the time we're little girls on. Although it's called The Big Day in reference to the significance of saying "I do," we're also inundated with the cultural ideal of having a big wedding. The more guests, the bigger the cake, the fancier the dress, the more grand the venue ... the better, right?
Actress Rachel Weisz and her "James Bond" star beau Daniel Craig obviously didn't think so. They tied the knot in a teensy-weensy, "secret" ceremony in NYC last week. Sources say only four people were in attendance, including Rachel's 5-year-old son and Daniel's 18-year-old daughter.
Although these two are celebs who likely have the means to make their Big Day as big as possible, it's really cool that they opted to celebrate on a smaller scale. In fact, they could and should start a trend here!
Small weddings are totally underappreciated. Maybe it's because, as Americans especially, we're big on family and feel like a wedding is a special occasion that requires having as many as many of our friends and family in attendance as possible. But there are so many good reasons to shave the guest list down. (Maybe you don't have to limit your guests to 4 a la Rachel and Daniel, but maybe in the double, instead of triple, digits?)
For one, having a small but sweet affair would cost less money, which is always a good thing, especially if you're trying to save up for a honeymoon, a move to a new pad, new furniture, your future child's college fund, whatever.
There's also the fact that focusing on inviting only VIP guests would help you keep at least some dysfunctional family issues at bay on The Big Day. (In other words, if you just hate certain people in your extended family, they don't have to be invited.) In many ways, if there are fewer people, there will be fewer the disagreements and potential arguments or problems.
And finally, if it's your second, third, etc. time down the aisle, you might feel like it's more appropriate to keep the occasion modest.
Hey, if you have the means and the desire to do a big huge party, by all means -- go for it! But if not, there's no shame in a smaller wedding. In fact, there's something about an affair like Rachel and Daniel's nuptials -- perhaps it's the intimacy? -- that makes them just as or more amazing. I'm just sayin' that in the end, the wedding day should be fit for no one other than the bride and groom.
How do you feel about smaller weddings?
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