Calm Down, Ladies! It's Just a Sex Toy

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Body jewelry on Etsy

Last week Etsy, the online marketplace for handmade and vintage items, had an embarrassing growing pain. A new People Search feature was enabled to allow buyers and sellers to search for each other by name and make the site feel like more of a social network. But Etsy ran into a little problem when people's entire purchase histories began showing up in the results.

This might not seem like a big deal to someone who had purchased a handmade journal or vintage jewelry. But what if it were something more compromising, say, a mahogany hardwood dildo or clitorial hood jewelry as was the case with some users. Would you want the whole world to know that such items were in your possession?

According to Etsy, the privacy issues have all been addressed, which is great because I don’t want people to know where I live or what my credit card number is. But someone knowing what I purchased, even if it is adult-oriented? I don’t really care about that.


But I think that I’m the exception because even in today’s world of scantily clad models and sexually explicit song lyrics, people still get embarrassed by a blatant show of sexuality when exposed to it face to face. The Internet gives us a sense of being removed, but see what happens when you mention sex toys in public: Most people will giggle and look at their feet. But why should they? We’re all sexual beings.

I’m not saying that you should go out there and toss your dildos around like Frisbees. I mean, I have enough sex toys to form a centerpiece at my next dinner party, but I wouldn't make one. (Well, maybe.) But really, who cares if someone knows that, *gulp*, you put something in your vagina and enjoy it. Because yes, women actually like sex, too. Some even more than men do.

Can you talk about sex toys without getting red in the face?

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