Is Herpes a Deal-Breaker? These Daters Say No

holding handsThe last time you clicked onto an online dating site, you were likely bombarded with a series of questions -- most of them personal. What is your ideal night out? What qualities do you want in a partner? That kind of thing.

But how would you feel if your dating service got a little more personal? For example, how would you feel if they asked about your medical history, specifically your STD history? Well, a Canada dating service has done just that, adding a division to its company that is specifically focused on matching individuals with genital herpes.

Think for a moment: If there's already an interest for sites that match potential couples based on religious, ethnic, and sexual preferences, then a dating site for people with herpes makes perfect sense, doesn't it?


Genital herpes affects about 1 in 6 people ages 14 to 49, according to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention. That's a lot of people, if you think about it. And in Canada, some of these people are thankful that there is a dating service like Camelot Introductions that understands the obstacles that come along with herpes on the dating scene.

Lianne Tregobov, a Camelot employee, explains that the company added the herpes question to an already thorough list of questions they present their clients upon joining their service.

We match based on compatibility and based on acceptance. Every single person is asked are you open to it? Yes or no.

And according to Tregobov, clients are often open to being matched to others with herpes even if they don't have the condition themselves. It's the fact that they're being upfront and honest about it that really matters.

If I had genital herpes, which I don't, would I list it? Definitely, because it gets the uncomfortable conversation out of the way. Just like I would want a guy to know about my religious affiliation or desire to have "X" amount of kids, I would want them to know about a condition that does somewhat affect my life.

A dating service like this one lets you put it all out on the table, take it or leave it. If a man is going to ditch you after finding out that you have herpes -- then you're better off without him. With that said, it doesn't make the process any easier or the heartbreak any less. Call me a pessimist, but at least this way, some may be able to avoid it or even find someone who is that much better because of it.

What do you think, would you list an STD on a dating profile?

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