Dear Dating Mom: Are One Night Stands During Divorce a Bad Idea?

Dear Dating Mom:

One-night stands when going through a divorce. Sometimes you just need to get laid. But what are the implications? -- Signed, You Can Leave Now

Dear You Can Leave Now:

Well first of all, let me congratulate you on “getting some.” Health wise, to me, it’s just as good for you as a workout at the gym only better, because I for one cannot recall a time when I was on an elliptical writhing and yelling out, “Don’t stop. Oh my God, don’t stop!”, so there is THAT.


Second, my condolences on your divorce unless of course he was a lying, cheating douche-bag, and then all I can say is “you go girl!” 

CUE: Me giving you a fist pump, my fist missing your fist by a mile, and both of us ending up looking like two of the uncoolest people on the planet.

But I digress.

When your sole intention is to rent out someone’s body for a brief period of time, I for one cannot see the downside. Well, unless, of course, his body’s version of “brief” is really “mere seconds” and, well, that’s a whole other topic that I won’t touch on now.

I know for me, the last thing I wanted after I divorced my ex and his mother was to be in another relationship. The fact is, sometimes a person really does just need to get laid, and trust me, if I could’ve stopped the men I was with from talking while it was happening, all the better. But you know guys, always wanting to chit chat … geez, and I’m telling you, if I heard the line, “Don’t worry, it’ll get bigger” one more time, well ...

Now, I would be remiss if I didn’t say that of course you have to be careful. I would always recommend using a condom. I know a lot of men say they don’t like it. I guess I wouldn’t either if I had to walk in a drugstore and ask the clerk if she has any petite sizes in the back. I would think that could be a bit, well, embarrassing, to be sure, but that is not your problem.

Bottom line, to get serious with someone right after you've left your marriage isn't a good idea -- at least I don’t think so. Now, I could just be saying that because coincidentally, the only person that has inquired about my long-term relationship plans goes by the screen name "buckaroojew," but still, it’s probably better to wait.

The wounds need to heal, the money divided, the custody schedule planned, never mind the time you’re going to spend trying to find someone to take down his mother. All those things need to be dealt with first. However, if while doing so, you need a moment to feel beautiful and desirable again, then either find a vibrator that can also hug you or get yourself a man and have a wonderful evening.

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