Online Dating Assistant: The Lazy Man's Answer to Online Dating

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Here's an interesting scenario for you: After several exhausting months of trying to meet a guy the old-fashioned way, (i.e. bars, through friends, church, etc) with nothing to show for it except a few date night horror stories to share with the girls, you try the online dating world.

You meet a guy that you have a great (virtual) connection with. He's cute, charming, witty, and gets your dry sense of humor perfectly. After a couple of weeks of back-and-forth online conversations, you finally go on a date only to find him to be this corporate suit void of any human emotion.

What happened to the guy that got your Seinfield quote reference on the first try, or that blushingly admitted he watched American Idol? That guy was actually hired by the suit that's sitting across from you now. He was an online dating assistant.


These Internet-dating outsourcing companies are made up of ghostwriters who charge lazy busy bachelors anywhere from $600 to $5000 to play matchmaker.

They write your profile, sift through messages from women, and perform the initial flirtation before a first date.

If I found out that the guy I was on a date had hired an online dating assistant, I'd be throwing the bread basket at his head and walking out the door. It's beginning any potential relationship you may have had on a lie. I would feel naive, betrayed, and stupid for liking someone who was doing it merely for a paycheck.

What do you think about the idea of an online dating assistant? Would you be understanding if a guy told you that he used one?

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